What you can and cannot talk about after sex. This is the only thing that men want more than carnal pleasures. But they never talk about it! What to say to a man during intimacy

From the outside it seems that relationships are quite simple: people meet, fall in love and eventually get married. But the inner path can be thorny. Therefore, it is important to know what to say to a man, unless, of course, a woman wants to get married. Let's trace the dynamics of relationships from the first love to the state of maturity in marriage.

Revision of opportunities

Falling in love is a wonderful feeling, it is much sharper, more emotional than mature love. But if a woman needs to seduce a man, then impulses only get in the way. Therefore, at first it is necessary to step on the throat of one's own song and consider oneself strictly and impartially, as if a woman is a general, and her strengths and weaknesses are soldiers. The main question is what to say to a man, but it cannot be answered if you do not take an inventory of your external and internal qualities. Pretty bet on their attractiveness, cute - on charm, smart - on intelligence. There are few frankly unpleasant women, but many unfortunate ones, unfortunately.

Studying the object

So, the girl found out and analyzed her weapons, is that all? Of course not. Now you need to study the object of passion, as if it were not a man, but a military task. To figure out:

• interests;
• hobbies;
• occupation;
• and the way he treats women.

The last point is not what the reader thought (the study is not about orientation), because sometimes you come across bastards who are best avoided, no matter how romantic the dawn of a relationship promises.

The easiest way is to collect information about the first three points, the rest is found out in the process.

Genuine awareness is the key to success

You can stay awake at night and torture yourself with the question: what to say to the man you like? But that's not something worth doing. On the contrary, it is necessary to look good and be in shape. And the truth is always somewhere nearby. You need to talk to a man about himself. But there is one subtlety: real knowledge of the subject is valued.

Naturally, if we look at the portrait of an average man and an average woman, their interests practically do not intersect. He loves cars, fishing and beer, she loves expensive clothes, herself and being photographed in the mirror. But the magic is that none of us are 100% average. So, there are hopes for great and pure love, if you make a little effort.

So, in order to have something to talk about and what to say to a man, you need to delve into the interests of the object, and you should not collect material for a Ph.D. thesis, a superficial acquaintance is enough. Happiness is when there are initially common points, but this rarely happens.

What is the biggest mistake people make? They, as a rule, pull the blanket over themselves, over their personality, their interests. The one who does the opposite will hit the jackpot or achieve the goal, as you like.

Less criticism and more compliments

The positive program is more or less clear. Let's talk about what not to say to a man. Here, too, everything is quite simple. A man, like a woman, loves with his ears. The strong sex likes to be praised by the weak sex. But compliments must be chosen wisely. You can't say something that hurts. Criticism in any form at the stage of establishing a relationship is unacceptable and harmful, even if a woman categorically disagrees with something.

Although when love is strong, even the flaws of the gentleman seem to be some kind of refinement. But we will imagine that the first wave of charm still subsided, and the object became interested in the woman.

Only compliments, one solid nectar pouring from the lips of a woman. The whole secret is that not everyone had a happy childhood, and sometimes parents are too strict with their children, including mothers. And if a girl makes a young man feel that he is her hero, then the conqueror will turn into a victim and surrender without firing a shot. Criticism will return him to childhood, where he was always not good enough. What do men want to hear? Only inspiring!

The reader may say that this case is not an axiom. Right. But we are not talking about severe cases here. Parents tend to be unhappy with their children, right? Few people are proud of their offspring, but a woman can use this for her own purposes. In the end, even if a person did not have a difficult childhood, then compliments will not hurt him, while criticism is synonymous with failure and dead end. Now it’s clear what you can’t say to a man?

Comparisons only make matters worse.

Theoretically, man is inexhaustible. Psychology, anthropology, philosophy and other sciences do not tire of telling us about this great and banal truth, but from a practical point of view, an empirical person is a predictable and constant being. If a woman meets a man who is 30 or 40, then it is pointless to hope for his correction.

The main problem of people (both men and women equally) is that they are often not ready to perceive a living person. Partners look at each other through the prism of their own ideas about a "real man" or "real woman". When they have the right material, they try with maniacal persistence to squeeze the unfortunate person into the box. This cannot be done, because there are no real men and women, there are only people with advantages and disadvantages. And you need to try to accept the second and admire the first.

Therefore, a comparison with dad, a former boyfriend under a categorical ban, it offends, offends and leads to bad thoughts. Boys who love their mothers very much should not compare their wife with her, even if they really want to. Moreover, the advice is effective at any stage of the relationship.

Smooth transition from his interests to her desires and hobbies

What to talk about with a man? If a couple has been dating for a long time, for example, a month (don’t laugh, it’s a long time for a relationship, don’t wait a year, especially since the speed of life increases every day), you can already talk not only about him, but also about yourself:

• interests;
• hobbies;
• work;
• desires;
• plans for the future (personal, not joint).

By the way, this is also a good way to check the quality of a man. If he is interested in the inner world of a woman, then the relationship has a future and a worthy gentleman. When, during heartfelt, personal outpourings, Romeo yawns and tries to quickly change the subject to himself, his beloved, then it is better to quit such an egocentric after a month of acquaintance than to suffer all his life. As you can see, the question of what to talk about with a man is not particularly difficult.

Confessions of love. The main thing is to choose the moment

Sartre, in his wonderful but difficult book Being and Nothingness, wrote that the essence of the relationship between a man and a woman is struggle. The main goal is to subjugate the freedom of another person.

It is interesting that most people think the same way, which Sartre never discovered. A man is afraid to confess his love due to gender stereotypes, and a woman does not want to open her feelings until she is completely sure of the guy's trustworthiness. Needless to say, the unbearable lightness of the existence of modern civilization has played its role in human relations: frivolity is what each of us breathes now. Everything is temporary, ephemeral and unsteady. Therefore, the question is so acute about whether it is worth telling a man about his feelings and when is it better to do it?

If we develop the metaphor of relationships, like a chess game, then there is a one hundred percent option: the girl confesses when the guy confesses. Moreover, it is necessary to take into account the fact that such people live in the world, for whom, in principle, it is quite difficult to talk about their feelings and emotions. In this case, you can do without words if love is felt by the skin.

There is no magic stamp in the passport

If a woman is seriously determined to comprehend the psychology of communication with men, then she needs to understand that marriage in ideally built relationships should not change anything. When a mechanism is working properly, it needs no improvement. If people change 180 degrees after the registry office, then something was wrong. There are any number of such cases. For example, the husband begins to drink, the wife turns into a domestic tyrant. Scenarios are possible in which everything happens the other way around.

People overestimate the stamp in the passport, and then bitterly regret it. It is difficult to say what is the reason for such an illusion. In Russia, for example, it is quite easy to get a divorce compared to France.

We can only state the fact: some men and women perceive a visit to the registry office as a blood oath or a deal with the devil that cannot be canceled. This is their big mistake. The status of a wife or husband does not give any special privileges, they are provided only by love. A person also takes on responsibilities voluntarily, because he wants to make his loved one happy. This should always be remembered when thinking about the psychology of communication with men. The rule works both ways.

Claims must be substantiated

We are getting deeper and deeper into the essence of family life, and there is less and less room for romanticism. It gives way to the harsh everyday work. Scandals and contradictions are on the agenda. Love, unfortunately, does not imply automatic happiness and harmony between people. Love is the foundation, the foundation of a building, but not its rooms. The latter require separate efforts.

Therefore, when grievances and disappointments have accumulated, it is best to express them in a correct and specific form, that is, the phrase “you are a man, you must ...” is better to forget forever and never return to it. Only real problems should be discussed, and not those deceived expectations that have not been met. Phrases are also harmful:

1. "What's going on between us?"
2. "We need to have a serious talk."

True, the first is more typical for the middle of a relationship than for family life. But everything happens.

Boat of love in the ocean of life

The reader might think that maintaining good relations in such a situation is an almost impossible task. No, it's not that bad. Happy marriages do happen, but there aren't many. Most people lack the patience, understanding, and wisdom to keep relationships alive. The place of real feelings is occupied by ossified habit. Therefore, you do not need to ask yourself: should a man talk about love after so many years of marriage? This is an idle question. There is only one answer. Moreover, a woman also needs emotional support. People are afraid that sacred words will become on duty - these are empty fears. Cast aside doubts and forward to victory.

Only love has the power to keep a relationship from freezing. Of course, there is a certain percentage of men who marry for economic reasons: they are reluctant to cook their own food, ironing trousers is not a romantic approach. But the initial task of a person is to find a soul mate. Not bad if she also knows how to cook, but this is not the main thing. Only emotional closeness is important, everything else can be overcome.

Is there everlasting love?

The question that torments more than one generation of people: is it possible to love all your life? Yes, you can. If you approach the problem in the right way.

Psychologist Alesei Kapranov, in one of his lectures on the relationship between a man and a woman, said that boys never grow up and constantly need approval, first their mother praises them, then their wife. And only those girls who realize this will be able to build a strong family. The question of what words to say to a beloved man suggests a general answer: words of support and approval, if he does not receive them at home, then he will find them somewhere else, and then the marriage will end.

The recommendations are all simple, but few people use them. It is clear that the time requires quick and concrete decisions. But how can you give a single unified recipe for happiness for all couples? This is a utopia!

If, nevertheless, the general answer does not suit you and you want to know what phrases to say to a man, then if you please. They should start like this: "What are you ...":

• wise;
• Kind;
• Beautiful;
• generous;
• generous;
• penetrating.

If you really need to say something, then you should look for the positive qualities of your husband and sing about them. Otherwise, the recipe is simple: let's compliment each other. Praise each other, sparing no effort, and the more personal creativity in pleasant words, the better.

The main rule, of course, is the emancipation of both partners during sexual contact in bed. And in this case, it doesn’t matter whether everything said in bed will carry a certain semantic load or not, because in order to approve the partner’s actions or express your feelings, it is enough to use short words or statements, for example, “more”, “ mmm…”, “yes!”. In such statements, one can perfectly hear not only sexual lust, but also love for a partner, pleasure and impatience derived from his caresses.

Next, you probably need to discuss a rather controversial definition - "obscene expressions" in bed. The reasons for the satisfaction that partners can get by hearing rudeness during sex are a thing of the distant past. A hard life forced people then simply not to pay much attention to caresses during sex. That is, men then lived according to the only and main principle: he came, he saw, he conquered. They did not think about what to say in bed, they were simply not up to it. And it is for this reason that men during sex may not hold back from strong expressions that speak juicy and passionately, and may even be pleasant for a woman. It is possible that for both partners, obscene language will cause an even greater surge of sexual desire, so you can say in bed what both partners like.

And now we must, of course, remember the groans and screams during sexual contact. In this case, an adequate reaction of the neighbors is a rather significant factor. In all other respects, the partners will be able to do almost anything. By the way, it is not at all necessary that during sex, moans are heard only from the side of the partner, while the partner, courageously squeezing his lips, would be silent, like partisans during interrogation. Neither partner is obliged to limit himself. Both a woman and a man can do in bed whatever they like to do, that is, cry, and laugh, or just be silent. Keep in mind that during sex with a non-regular partner, you need to initially tell him about personal preferences. Otherwise, you can simply scare him. And, perhaps, it will be the love of your life and your soulmate? And you will simply frighten off personal happiness with your own behavior ?!

And another rather difficult question, which concerns whether it is possible to identify one's own sexual desires, while using statements and words for this, for example, “I want you right now!”. So, saying such statements in bed is not only possible, but also necessary. However, this must be done, of course, not on the first day after meeting. But in other cases, you can quite demand if you really want to.

The power of the word cannot be underestimated. As you know, a word can hurt, a word can please ....
Today we will only talk about the good.

Namely, how the miraculous power of the word can affect the perception of the stronger sex of humanity.
In love, all means are good.

And if these tools also help us establish positive contact with our loved ones, what else is needed? Beautiful openwork peignoirs, underwear, headbands ...

What are the exciting words for men to use

Sometimes we are surprised, but this does not affect the change in the behavior of a man. It would seem that a man loves with his eyes, and a woman with her ears. Let's break stereotypes!

Men, like us, tremble from an affectionate, but well-timed word. They just don't show it sometimes.

Every woman wants to learn how to excite a man correctly, whisper words that will excite not only his mind but also his flesh. Not surprising, because each of us wants to be always loved and attractive, and knowing how to get a man with one word - also the most desirable!

Exciting words for men

When a man is in the mood for intimacy, anything can turn him on. It all depends on the preferences of your chosen one. Some men love it when their girlfriend is very loud in bed. Others love obscene language. There is nothing to be ashamed of, this is why sex exists, to embody your wildest ideas and open up to your partner. By studying your partner, you will know which words and phrases will absolutely guarantee you success.

What phrases excite a man

1. I am yours, dear .... Take me!
2. I want you…. Touch me without ceasing.
3. Take me now, please….
4. Undress me with a look!
5. Enter me as deeply as possible….
6. I love you to a complete loss of consciousness ....
7. My body burns with impatience and excitement….
8. What are you thinking about now, dear?.. At your touch, I feel a gentle trembling ....
9. I dream to feel you .... I love your whole body!
10. You turn me on so much when you take a shower. I want to feel your wet body.

A man can be disturbed by his own name, pronounced both before and during sex. It is advisable to pronounce it in a whisper and a gentle timbre.

Do not forget to repeat the phrases "More, more, faster, yes, yes, I want, I want ...". This is very exciting for the male sex.

If you are at the initial stage in a relationship, you should be more careful and tactful with exciting words. After all, you still know little what your friend loves, what fantasies he imagines, whether he loves tenderness or rudeness.

Therefore, pick up universal tricks and tricks in which there will be a slight hint of sex and nothing more. But just don't overdo it! You don't want to appear slutty and vulgar in the eyes of your boyfriend, do you? Save this for your honeymoon, where you're sure to shine!

Exciting compliment words

1. Use erotic phrases in everyday situations. For example, your friend asks where you wanted to go today - to which you reply: “Today I really WANT to visit Chinese cuisine. I love to wield these funny wands!”
"I get great pleasure from shopping."
“I want you to TAKE me to football/bowling/tennis. I love to watch you chasing balls."

2. Use compliments that work on a man without fail.

"After our first kiss, I felt my chest burning"
“Your strong hands wield this hammer / or other tool perfectly.
"Touch me, I think I'm cold."

In general, experiment, speak to the emu sincerely, gently, in a whisper, leaning slightly towards him on the shoulder, breathe into his ear. Men burn with desire when they hear our hot breath, repeating his name, words of love and just compliments.

Having studied all the subtleties of the impact of words on your man, you will not only have a wonderful passionate lover, but also awaken a burning passion in a long-term relationship.

This applies, for example, to married couples who, after a long life together, have lost faith that it is possible to light up in a new way and look at each other with eyes full of lust.

Show your husband that you can be different, whisper affectionate words to him that you have never said before. Do not be afraid to be liberated and sincere.

Enjoy your evenings and sleepless nights!

I asked my husband what words can excite a man? Without hesitation, he answered: “The borscht is ready! Would you like a cold beer? Can we buy new tires? At first I laughed, appreciating my husband's sense of humor, and then I thought about it, because there is some truth in every joke. Somehow it happened ... What to hide, intimate relationships after 10 years of marriage, to put it mildly, are not the same. You take care of him, you try to share his interests, you endlessly sacrifice something for him, and he begins to look at you with completely different eyes, in which, alas, all desire has long dried up ...

Elena K.

Well, okay, let's not go into the details of this difficult case. I hope everything is not as neglected for you as it was for one of my clients! I would like to chat about what words can excite a man. And is it even possible to arouse desire in him with the help of a word.

Scientists have long established the fact that a man is visited by thoughts related to sex at least 8 times a day. And in order for these very sexual fantasies to visit him, neither pictures of naked women, nor exciting sounds or smells are needed. He starts to think about it involuntarily. And how to make him think not just about sex, but about sex with you? And it is even better not only to think, but also to act ...

Most women underestimate the power of verbal action. The Internet is teeming with information on how to excite a man in sign language. Seduction experts recommend returning former passion with new erotic lingerie, role-playing games, aphrodisiacs and love potions. By the way, read - and in your head a lot about this will become clear.

In general, what a woman does not go to to seduce a man! Of course, you can also jump half-naked in front of him performing dirty dances, but I still advise you to consider a simpler and no less virginal way.

What should I say

The list of phrases and words that excite a man has been known for a long time. Many women often resort to his help. And although all guys are individual and require a unique approach of their kind, there are still universal verbal “recipes-activators”:

His name

Better than any stimulant, a man can be aroused by his own name, pronounced with an aspiration, in a languid voice. And remember, there should not be any "bunnies, cats and babies" in the bed!

intimate compliments

Hints of great length and sexual strength of the guy are 100%. Laudatory words and phrases addressed to the intimate dignity of a partner can excite anyone:

• "so powerful";
• "just huge"
• "big and bouncy".

sexual fantasies

Stories of an erotic nature will not leave any man indifferent. If you are embarrassed to tell him your fantasies, cheat and tell him that you dreamed all this. Believe me, it doesn’t matter to him where these frivolities came from in your head. The main thing is that they appeared at all.

How to say

It is very important not only what you will say to him to turn him on, but also how you say it. This is where many women make mistakes, thereby postponing the moment of intimacy. The list of words that can turn him on has been drawn up, now you have to pronounce them in a special way.

The exact answer to the question: "How to excite your partner with words?" - No. Which phrases are effective and efficient, and which ones cause negativity and rejection, you can only find out by experimenting. There is only one universal advice - speak with feeling.

Voice timbre

Start with your tone. Intonation during a conversation changes significantly and often depends on your mood. Exciting a man with words, or rather during the pronunciation of certain phrases, the main thing is that the speech does not sound feigned. Remember - no pathos, falsehood and artificiality! Better you get lost than start minting a prepared speech, as if speaking in front of a thousandth audience with a report.

Voice volume

The loudness of the pronunciation of words is no less important. The main thing is to evaluate the relevance. Loud phrases are also acceptable, unless of course you are sure that no one will hear your “loud conversation”. A barely audible languid whisper is also possible if your partner is not deaf. It is important that it sounds organic.

Dual meaning

Women, of course, are more likely than men to search for a hidden meaning, but some phrases, if you say them at the right time, may please a guy. For example, tell him that his hands are comparable to those of a musician. And believe me, the result will not keep you waiting - at today's concert he will "play" a breathtaking melody. And in the main role of the instrument - your naked body ...

By the way, there is one phrase that works flawlessly: "Let's get down to business!". Apparently, this is a kind of male stereotype, since even an unfamiliar man will definitely react to these words.

Without the art of ambiguity, there is no true eroticism. The stronger the ambiguity, the more intense the excitement.

Milan Kundera

Personal approach

Not everyone can like outright vulgarity. Of course, there are connoisseurs of a strong word uttered by a heated woman. There are also men who are excited by an exquisite speech turnover. In order not to make a mistake, you just need to listen to his everyday speech. Never forget individuality.

Unfortunately, the analysis of the effectiveness of various exciting phrases has never been carried out by anyone. And, of course, there are no statistical data, too delicate questions. There are no identical men, exactly the same as there are no universal expressions that excite them. Therefore, I will give some examples of the most effective and common phrases, and you will decide for yourself whether they are suitable in relation to your partner.

"I want you". I consider this phrase the undisputed leader in comparison with all other phrases. After all, what can excite more than the sincere desire of a woman.

"Take me". Someone will say that this phrase is too frank, but experienced ladies are sure that these words always work flawlessly.

"I want to feel you." No clarifications are needed, he will definitely understand everything himself.

“To caress me” are chic words that can not only excite, but also push to action.

"Beloved, I am yours." With this phrase, you will emphasize not only your desire, but also your feelings, trust and emotional closeness.

"I can't wait for tonight." If a couple of hours before the end of the working day you call and say this phrase, a passionate night will be provided for you.

You can blow him away by telling him you didn't wear underwear. It is this phrase that has a lightning effect. In any case, in order to choose the right phrase for your boyfriend, you must be guided by his interests and secret desires.

To evaluate the effectiveness of the proposed phrases, you may have to use more than one phrase. I think he will like your game, because after all, most men really like experiments.

What to Avoid

If you have known a man for a long time and are well versed in his desires and preferences, then it will not be difficult for you to excite him. But how can words arouse desire in him if your relationship is only gaining momentum in its development, or rather, what should never be done?

Avoid laughter and jokes during lovemaking. Humor is not conducive to excitement! And by joking about his sexual dignity, you risk pushing him away from you once and for all.

It's easy to ruin sex with idle chatter. If you just confessed to him that you want him, and after a couple of minutes, already in bed, you voice that he did not wash his plate after dinner, the evening can be considered ruined.

The key to good sex is sincere desire and love for your partner. To excite a man with words is half the battle, the main thing is to keep passion for many years. Say and do everything possible and necessary for the sake of your partner and never be selfish in bed.

Your words can make a man God or ... cause him suffering. And your relationship with him will depend on it. So what do representatives of the strong half of humanity want to hear from their women?
I bring to your attention some of the most common phrases that will sound like music for your man. And of course improve the quality of your relationship!

1. How are you feeling?

Variants of this phrase:

• How can I help you?
• How can I relieve your condition?
• What would you like right now?
• What would make you happy?
• Is there anything I can do to make both of us feel better?

He really wants you to take care of him. Caring gives your man a sense of depth and strength in your relationship. After all, this is how you make it clear that his physical, moral and emotional well-being is important to you. Here is what men who hear these phrases say:

• "I feel like a person who is cared for, listened to, heard and understood."
• “I understand that she really cares about how I feel in a difficult situation, and she really wants to help me.”

2. I'm safe with you

Variants of this phrase:

• You solved this problem so easily!
• I am delighted how you ... (fixed the TV, set up the computer, nailed the hanger, pulled the linen cord ...)
• You took a load off my shoulders.
• I couldn't have done it alone!
• You did a great job for me.

When a man loves you he wants you to feel comfort, coziness and security next to him. Letting him know that his efforts were not in vain, you inspire him to continue to make efforts in this direction. Here is how men respond to these words:

• “I realized that I had created a good base on which to build many other things, to develop our relations.”
• "I would do more for her!"

3. I support you

Phrase options:

• I'm proud of you.
• I believe in you.
• You definitely can do it!
• I'm with you anyway.
• I don't care what others think, I know you better and I have confidence in you.
• In my eyes, in any case, you are a wonderful (strong, talented, purposeful ...) man.

“My wife is my fortress,” the famous artist Yevgeny Zharikov paraphrased the famous catch phrase. The best image, meaning support, is perhaps difficult to find.
Your man needs to know that he can count on you. Always. And in the moments when he takes risks, and when he pours champagne to celebrate the victory.
But a man is the embodiment of power. Does he need support?
You are important to your man like no other. AND when you support him, believe in him and are proud of him, he becomes even stronger:

• "Her support gives me confidence that I can solve many problems."
• "I have more strength."
• "I feel ready to endure the harsh conditions that I am placed in."

Your man wants you to spend time with him, and not only in the case of important and useful things. Shaking, switching, playing, a positive charge of emotions he needs like air! Relationships become insipid and turn into a routine if they follow the model of "home - work, work - home, weekends - TV" all the time.
Therefore, arrange small holidays. And don't focus on one thing. If he usually takes you to cafes or restaurants, host the party. And if you also prepare a dish that comes out masterfully or that he likes, you win doubly!
What do men think?

• “The pleasure of spending time together is so refreshing in our relationship!”
• “We usually have special sex after events like this.”

Your man wants to know that he is still desired by you, turns you on, and you can't wait to be in bed with him. And it is not necessary to hope every time that he initiates sex. Take the first step! Let him know how much you want him. You do not run the risk of being intrusive or indiscreet.
Men are delighted with this:

• "It helps me feel sexually powerful."
• "It fires me up!"
• “I know that I am interesting, desirable, it adds warmth to the relationship, makes us closer.”

6. Thank you!

Options:

• I am so grateful to you!
• I have no words…
• I can't express how great you did!
• Your help is so important to me!
• Your concern makes me truly happy.
• I am very glad that you thought about it.

A huge number of men want a simple thing: to be appreciated for what they do. He knows that you need him. He seeks to help you. A loving man wants to make you happy, it's in his blood.
Therefore, sincerely express your gratitude to him. Don't be stingy! This is the fuel that encourages him to keep going:

When you say “I love…”, you address him with your heart. And his heart responds. He feels with all his being that your love is unshakable and unconditional.. He ceases to be afraid of his vulnerability and gains the ability to express his love in return. Isn't that what you want?

• “A woman who can speak openly and strongly about her love is a gift of fate.”
• “Words are very important to me. But if these words are accompanied by a loving look, and even better, a gentle touch or hug, it’s just a thrill!”

So, if you want to show your man how much he means to you, use all the phrases that were discussed. Let your wise instinct tell you how and in what combinations to do this. And you will become the one and only for him.