Sometimes everything goes wrong in a woman's life...
Personal life is not going well, health leaves much to be desired, there is no job or you don’t like it at all, money is running out, constant conflicts with relatives... In general, bad luck and complete collapse, some kind of black streak and, it seems, there is no way out...

You are trying to solve a problem in one area, but another is dragging you down. For example, how to achieve success in your career when your health sometimes doesn’t even allow you to leave the house? Or how to meet your love and create a wonderful relationship when your family is constantly putting pressure on you, and your self-esteem is constantly creeping down?

There are plenty of reasons to simply fall into despair and... thereby create even more problems for yourself! The solution is to stop constantly focusing on what is and turn your attention to what you want.

As a rule, we do not allow ourselves to daydream and fly in the clouds, and if we have a lot of problems, then dreams and daydreams seem even more inappropriate. We think that the way out of problems is to fight them and win. You need to be strong, have nerves of iron... But everything is really not like that.

If your life is full of tension, fatigue and pain, this is a signal that you need to relax a long time ago and allow yourself to become happy without fighting and without trying to deserve it.

Very often, a difficult struggle with difficulties is due to the fact that a woman has been accustomed since childhood to be correct, to be an excellent student - and tries to act as circumstances require of her, and not as she herself wishes. Such women lack audacity, healthy egoism and contact with their wild and beautiful essence. They don't believe that well-being is their natural state.

We need to stop swimming against the current, stop fighting...
How to stop fighting? Stop looking at your problems.

Is your personal life not working out?
- It's probably because I'm scary or men just don't like me.

Do you often get sick and feel weak?
- I’m kind of frail: all people are like people, but I just get sick.

Can't find a suitable job?
- I'm lazy, mediocre, stupid, useless...

Or the answer to all questions could be:
- I'm just terribly unlucky!

This is all wrong! Of course, you can always find flaws in yourself, you can look for confirmation of your bad luck... But this will not lead you to where you intend to go.

Be bolder, stronger and more confident not in order to fight all this, but in order to allow yourself to enjoy life now, standing where you are now. Courage and confidence to enjoy, not to fight.

You can say:
Okay, I won't pay attention to problems anymore, I'll think about good things and try to enjoy life. But the problems still won’t go away, the pain in the body won’t go away so quickly, a man won’t fall from the sky, a new job won’t knock on the door, and money won’t grow on a tree...

To this I sometimes answer clients: “Hmm, why not?”

It's hard to believe that happiness will fall from the sky, although it can fall.
You need to let what you want into your life SO that it is comfortable for you.

Indeed, getting everything you wanted in one day is somehow too much... And, as a rule, no one chooses this path. More often than not, it’s more pleasant for you when everything unfolds gradually and consistently, but at the same time let it be a little “seasoned with magic,” otherwise you will again become too deeply immersed in solving problems.

If you think that everything depends only on you and your efforts, you will simply become exhausted again.

• But if you imagine that from now on you seem to be caught by a stormy current and carried towards the life that you have long dreamed of,
• if you expect a successful outcome,
• if you believe that from now on you are lucky,
• if you feel like you found a magic genie lamp or a magic wand,
• if you manage not to return again and again to unpleasant thoughts,
• if you allow yourself to think that from now on everything will work out in your favor,
• if you find the courage and audacity to say that you don’t care what people think about this,
• if you trust your body, which asks for comfort, relaxation and pleasant sensations,
• if you protect yourself from unpleasant contacts and unpleasant affairs,
• if you find the courage to refuse everyone and everything that does not bring you pleasure,
• and, finally, if you believe that your happiness was there all this time and was waiting for such a positive attitude -

then this is happiness and your dreams will quickly come into your life!

And you won’t have to wait several years or several lifetimes. Even today you can feel positive changes in your life. At first a little bit... And then it will grab you. Just don't stop. Your happiness and well-being are worth giving yourself entirely to this process.

Create your life!
The only problem is that many have forgotten that they create their own lives. That the main instrument of creation is your thoughts, your mood, your feelings and attitude towards something.

And for many, to start a new, improved version of their life, all they need is for someone to confidently tell them: “You can do it!”

I'm telling you - you can!

There are times in life when it seems that everything is not going as we would like... Be it serious problems with health or finances, or discord in the family, conflicts with children... As L. Tolstoy once said: “All happy families are happy equally, and every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”

The truth is that everyone always has problems, and Happiness is not the absence of difficulties in life, but the ability to deal with them. No matter how bad or good you feel, start the day with gratitude. Look at what you ALREADY have, instead of dwelling on missed opportunities and losses.

Here are some more important reminders. Read them every time you feel like giving up:

1. Pain is part of growth.

Sometimes life closes doors because it's time to move. And this is good, because we often do not start moving unless circumstances force us. When times get tough, remind yourself that no pain comes without a purpose. Move away from what hurts you, but never forget the lesson it teaches you. Just because you are struggling doesn't mean you are failing. Every great success requires a worthy struggle to be present. Good things take time. Stay patient and confident. Everything will be alright; most likely not in a moment, but eventually everything will be...

Remember that there are two kinds of pain: pain that hurts, and pain that changes you. As you go through life, instead of resisting it, let it help you grow.

2. Everything in life is temporary.

Always when it rains you know it will end. Every time you are hurt, the wound heals. After darkness there is always light - you are reminded of this every morning, but nevertheless you often forget and believe that the night will always last. It will not happen. Nothing lasts forever.

So, if everything is good right now, enjoy it. This won't last forever. If things are bad, don't worry because it won't last forever either. Just because life isn't easy at the moment doesn't mean you can't laugh. Just because something is bothering you doesn't mean you can't smile. Every moment gives you a new beginning and a new ending. Every second you get a second chance. You are given a chance, and you just have to take it.

3. Worrying and complaining won't change anything.

Those who complain the most achieve the least. It is always better to try to do something big and fail than to try to do nothing and succeed. Nothing is over if you lose; it's all over if you're really just complaining. If you believe in something, keep trying. Don't let the shadows of the past cloud your future. Today's complaints about yesterday will not make tomorrow brighter. Let what you know improve the way you live. Make a change and never look back.

And no matter what ultimately happens, remember that true happiness begins to arrive only when you stop complaining about your problems and start being grateful for all the problems that you don't have.

4. Your scars are symbols of your strength.

Never be ashamed of the scars life has left you. The scar means that there is no more pain and the wound has healed. This means that you have overcome the pain, learned a lesson, become stronger and have moved forward. The scar is a tattoo of triumph. Don't let your scars hold you hostage. Don't let them make you live in fear. You can't make scars disappear, but you can change the way you see them. You may begin to view your scars as a sign of strength.

Ryumi once said: “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. From suffering came the strongest souls; The most powerful people in this big world are marked with scars. Look at your scars as a slogan: “YES! I DID IT! I survived and I have the scars to prove it! And now I have a chance to become even stronger.”

5. Every little struggle is a step forward.

In life, patience is not about waiting; it is in the ability to maintain a good mood, working hard towards your dreams, in the knowledge that the work is worth it. So if you're going to try it, go all the way. Otherwise there is no point in starting. This could mean a loss of stability and comfort for a while, and perhaps even your sanity. This may mean not eating what you used to or not sleeping as much as you used to for weeks on end. This may mean changing your comfort zone. This may mean sacrificing relationships and everything you know. This may mean the appearance of ridicule. This may mean time that you will spend alone. Solitude, however, is a gift that makes many things possible. It gives you the space you need. Everything else is a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to achieve your goal.

And if you want it, you will do it, despite failures and disagreements. And every step you take you will feel better than you can imagine. You will understand that struggle is not an obstacle on the way, it is the path. And it's worth it. So if you're going to try it, go all the way. There is no better feeling in the world... there is no better feeling than knowing what it means to be ALIVE.

6. Other people's negativity is not your problem.

Be confident when bad things surround you. Smile when others try to defeat you. This is an easy way to maintain your own enthusiasm. When other people talk bad about you, continue to be yourself. Never let someone else's conversations change the person you are. You can't take things too personally, even if it seems personal. Don't think that people do things because of you. They do things because of themselves.

First of all, never change to impress someone who says you are not good enough. Change if it makes you better and leads you to a brighter future. People will talk no matter what you do or how well you do it. Worry about yourself before you worry about what others think. If you believe in something, don't be afraid to fight for it. Great strength comes from overcoming the impossible.

All jokes aside, you only have one life. So do what makes you happy and be with someone who makes you smile.

7. What is meant to be will eventually BE.

True strength comes when you, instead of screaming and complaining, choose to smile and appreciate your life. There are blessings hidden in every struggle you face, but you must be willing to open your heart and mind to see them. You can't make things happen. You can only try. At some point you have to let go and allow what is meant to happen.

Love your life, trust your intuition, take risks, lose and find happiness, learn through experience. It's a long trip. You must stop worrying, questioning and doubting at any moment. Laugh, live in every moment and enjoy your life. You may not know exactly where you intended to go, but you will eventually arrive where you need to be.

8. The best thing you can do is keep moving.

Don't be afraid to get angry. Don't be afraid to love again. Don't let the cracks in your heart turn into scars. Understand that strength increases every day. Understand that courage is beautiful. Find in your heart what makes others smile. Remember that you don't need many people in your life, so don't strive to have more "friends." Be strong when things get tough. Remember that the universe always does what is right. Admit when you are wrong and learn from it. Always look back and see what you have achieved and be proud of yourself. Don't change for anyone if you don't want to. Do more. Write stories. Take photos. Be aware of the moments and ways in which your loved ones look at you.

Just keep being YOU. Keep growing. Keep moving.

Open Book of Wisdom Ray X

Who is to blame or Why does everything happen the way it does?

Look around, reader, and look at what is happening: wars, crises, changes in political leaders, troubles at work, problems with children, troubles in families - quarrels, scandals, sometimes even with fights and breaking of innocent dishes. What else? Sometimes you manage to achieve what you want, sometimes you don’t. Sometimes you feel deceived or offended, sometimes you feel alarmed and seriously worried about something.

There are moments (albeit very rarely, but they do happen!) when Luck even smiles on you, and on the wave of Luck you find yourself in the right place and at the right time. And sometimes Chance invades your plans and destroys them. What's the matter?

Why does what happens?

Maybe because someone really wanted it?

Or because “everything is God’s will”?

Or maybe because someone really didn’t want it (according to the so-called “law of meanness” or “law of the sandwich” - whichever you prefer)? Or is it karma (fate, fate, inevitability, predestination)?

Why?

TRUTH: Any (!) result appears only when there is not a single person with the Actual Intention “Not to allow this result to occur” and at the same time there are one or more people with the Actual Intention “to achieve this result.”

Do you have continuous failures in your life? This means that no one (including you, reader!) has the Real Intention “To prevent your failures” and there are people who create these failures of yours: you simply DID NOTHING to avoid getting into situations that you did not want.

Have you been robbed? This means that neither you nor anyone else had the Real Intention “To prevent the theft of your property,” and the thieves acted unhindered.

You are being manipulated and you are being deceived, which means no one (including you!) has the Real Intention “To prevent you from being deceived and manipulated,” and, naturally, no one is stopping the liars around you from lying to you and using you at their discretion . Sounds like tacit agreement, doesn't it?

And who suffers from this?

You, the reader, and perhaps your friends and loved ones.

If you, for example, (or someone else) had the Actual Intention “To prevent this from happening” - it wouldn’t happen, would it (for those who doubt: read the definition of ACTUAL INTENTION again)? So you can blame everyone around you for what is happening, but know: You are much more to blame for this than everyone else.

Why are you so much more to blame than others?

You have NOT figured out how your failures are created and who creates them. You allow these people to influence your life - hence your failures: You give these people the opportunity to act unhindered. And at the same time, do you still hope for something?

You, if you were robbed, didn't do ANYTHING in order to actually AVOID (not just “try to avoid”!) theft. Little of, You DID EVERYTHING POSSIBLE to be robbed! you didn't hold the curtains on the windows were constantly closed, and your property was visible from the windows of the house opposite “in full view” - look, choose what you like, look for a buyer and plan the theft to your health! you brought guests to your home, who then DEFINITELY (!) told all their friends about what they saw at your place: a very good way to advertise your property! You were bragging with your acquisitions and purchases in front of friends and acquaintances - advertising simply “splashes with lights”: it is impossible to resist telling someone else the news that you have a diamond ring! And than, You wear very nice clothes, and it immediately becomes clear to anyone: in this person’s apartment there will definitely be something to profit from!

TRUTH: If you do not have some kind of conscious Actual intention, you ALWAYS (!) have the exact opposite unconscious Actual intention.

Without having the Real Intention “to avoid undesirable results in your life,” you thereby have the Real Intention opposite to this: “to have and experience undesirable results in your own skin.”

And if you yourself do not have a Real Intention to avoid problems for yourself, do you really seriously hope that your happiness will be more valuable to someone than everything else? If you don’t value yourself, don’t take care of yourself, don’t respect yourself - do you really think that SOMEONE will value, take care of, respect you more? If you are not your own friend, who can protect you from problems and troubles?

Who can stop you from being a drug addict if that is what you want? NOBODY!

Who can stop you from dying if that is what you want? NOBODY!

Who can stop you from having troubles if you yourself constantly “run into them”? NOBODY!

A person becomes surprisingly inventive if he really wants to achieve something.

Who is to blame or why does everything happen the way it does? Now we want to teach you to SEE some ACTUAL moments in life that seem to be “in the shadows”. But you and I, with our ability, are quite capable of SEEING “in the pitch darkness”, which was created from lies