What to do when everything is bad. What to do if everything is bad in life: exit strategy

Even the most positive and optimistic individuals sometimes feel like they give up: things don’t work out anywhere - on the personal front, at work, with friends... There is only despair and nothing more. What to do if everything in life is bad? Just be, and the rest will work out.

A few thoughts to support you

If everything is bad in your life, “what to do” should become the second question. But first you need to change your thinking a little and support yourself.

Pain is only part of growth

If the door has closed in front of you, it’s time to move forward. Many people do not start moving until circumstances force them to. Here they are! Move!

By the way, about pain. In some Chinese martial arts schools, children deliberately tear ligaments during stretching. The pain is intense, but then it’s easier to do the splits.

This too shall pass

There is no need to quote the great king. Just don't think that the night will never end in the morning and the wound will always hurt. This doesn't happen!

Live in the moment when everything is great with you, and if you have no idea what to do if everything is bad in life.

Complaining and worrying won't change anything

No comments. Do not deprive yourself of the strength that can be used to resolve your problems.

All scars are only a symbol of strength

They show that you have survived an ordeal. The current wound will definitely heal with a scar. Don't let them hold you hostage and let them live in fear. This is a sign of triumph.

Any struggle you have is a step forward. If you have to fight what is bad, you move to where it will be better.

Bad people are not your problem

If they are trying to destroy or defeat you, smile! This way you will save yourself, which is important if you are surrounded by not the most decent or evil people. Be yourself even if someone says bad things about you. Don't let anyone break you and change you. The environment changes (and you are not always the one who attracts it), but you are with you forever.

Something needs to be let go

You need this in order to continue your journey. Even if everything goes wrong, move on and don’t be afraid to get angry, love again, or make mistakes. In any case, the Universe is right and for some reason this “everything is bad” was given to you: everything is smooth and calm only in the coffin, but you won’t feel it anymore.

What to do?

Thinking correctly is the beginning of the journey. But what to do if everything is bad?

Sorting out problems

You can even make a list of everything that is bad: the name of the problem, the essence, how to solve it and whether it can be solved at all. Some things can be left without a decision, since they only need to be accepted. And some problems have two or more solutions. Something will take years to resolve, but if your favorite coat is torn, you can deal with it in a few days.

When everything is really bad and your hands have fallen, it is difficult to connect logic, but it is better to do just that, rather than complain and worry.

Play some sports

The formula for success here is simple. Firstly, exercise will help cope with stress, and secondly, problems can resolve while you work on yourself. And you will enter your new life with a beautiful and healthy body.

Don't go all out

Some people think that when everything is bad, you need to have drinking parties and partying. This will not make your life better: troubles will not go away, but comrades will come to them: poor health, hangover and lack of money. For girls, damaged skin and extra pounds will be a special bonus. But once in a while, taking something extra with a true friend can even be useful...

Don't hide your negative emotions

Of course, there is no point in constantly complaining and grief cannot always be helped with tears, but you need to let off steam and negativity, no matter how you were raised... Yes, you can roar, scream and break down (even at those closest to you), break cups. And not just once, but as many times as required in your situation. You can also start a whole notebook to drain negative emotions. The main thing is that this does not enter the system, like the mentioned alcohol. But cherishing your anger, resentment and other dirty tricks is prohibited!

Don't be afraid to cry out for help

And it’s not just about helping “our own” or influential people. If necessary, visit a priest, a psychotherapist, a spiritual mentor... Someone who can cure you... In general, do not be afraid of communication during difficult periods. You understand that you can share your troubles with someone. But if you close yourself in, you will also close your grief inside.

Think (and say) only good things

You can dream about good things and then they can also materialize. You shouldn’t live with the idea that the status quo (that is, everything that happens today) is forever and you will die alone, unloved and in a torn coat. No matter how you remember the joke about a man who only thought badly about everything, and a guardian angel sat behind him and wrote it all down: the boss is a brute, the wife is a fool, etc. Thoughts, make the right orders and requests to higher powers. The same goes for conversations. Do not support negative topics that colleagues, friends or neighbors love to discuss - you have your own opinion.

Love

This feeling always lifts you up. Do good deeds in the name of the people you love and life will change for the better. If you don’t have half, you still have someone to love: friends or relatives, an animal. And finally, even the most difficult situations in life should not give you a reason to stop loving yourself. Just love yourself even if your husband left, your coat was torn and your boss sawed you off. The universe will change its attitude towards you only if you love yourself.

Before reading this text, I must warn you: deterioration in life does not occur overnight, they are the result of gradual and sometimes imperceptible processes for the brain deceived by illusions. It doesn't happen that way! and everything in life became dramatically worse. A person himself prepares the ground for this - he strengthens inadequate realities and unviable attitudes with faith, makes strategically erroneous decisions, ignores facts, etc. and so on.

To begin with, you should understand and accept as an axiom one simple thing, which is that There are no unsolvable problems, there are unpleasant solutions. It is difficult to accept it, because in the minds of many people, a woman’s attitude toward the perception of reality, “what is true is pleasant,” “I close my eyes and all the bad things will disappear,” dominates in the minds of many people. It is with its elimination and eradication that the process of getting out of the ass into which a person has driven himself begins.

Next step– this is a sober look at reality. You cannot correct a situation / solve a problem without recognizing the facts. This is usually made difficult by the fact that the individual is accustomed to lying to himself. Freud also proved that most of our words and thoughts serve to hide the truth. First of all, from ourselves. It’s difficult to figure out your own lies and false interpretation of facts on your own, so smart people turn to those who know how to separate reality from bullshit for help.

In fact, after this step, we can consider that half the path has already been completed. Because an honest and conscious look at reality automatically puts everything in its place and a large (if not most) part of the problems falls off by itself. By the way, Allen Carr’s methods for overcoming drug addictions (“the easiest way to quit smoking” and others) are based on this.

Third step is decision making. It seems like a simple action, but it stalls in the swamp of childish infantilism generated by a woman’s upbringing. The average representative of society does not have the desire and ability to live independently, that is, to live freely - he is accustomed to others deciding everything for him: first his parents, then the school and college, then the authorities with the government and money, which the moneyphile-bred man in the street perceives as “universal.” problem solver,” they say, I’ll take it where it needs to be, I’ll pay and there’s no need to strain myself.

And this is where the mistake comes in, because the active, that is, subjective life position ALWAYS involves the application of effort, and any effort requires a certain amount of tension. Otherwise, it turns out, as in that vulgar joke: “And what did you understand, Vovochka? - Don’t relax, otherwise you’ll #boot!” True, you also need to strain yourself mentally, and not like the horse Boxer from Animal Farm, who, in the situation of the onset of another ass, constantly said the same thing: “I will work even harder.” As you know, the horse ended badly - he was sent to a slaughterhouse and soap factory. Yes, you have to work not 18 hours, but with your head.

The degree of tension, by the way, directly depends on the steepness of the solution. You won’t have to work hard to fix or even slightly tint a leaky fence, but the result won’t be particularly beautiful and won’t be very durable. But for a small person with small goals, in general it is quite acceptable. To completely reconstruct a dilapidated house (if everything is really bad in life), all forces and resources must be concentrated into a fist. Well, of course, you need to know WHAT EXACTLY do. Because, as the classic bequeathed, “a specific analysis of a specific situation is the very essence, the living soul of Marxism.”

In fact, the development and assistance in implementing a detailed strategy for overcoming the crisis is the subject of coaching and consulting work. Since this requires operations that are very problematic to do alone - take an honest look at yourself and your life from the outside, clarify your true goals and desires (understand your real, not fictitious purpose/vocation) and discard false ones, subject to critical analysis and revision of beliefs and the attitudes that previously guided me in life and which ultimately led to my ass (after all, our fate is neither more nor less, but the deployment over time of our unconscious attitudes and “game packages”). Well, and various other important things.

“Deceive the Emperor and cross the sea”

Another dissatisfied reader will grumpily say: so, they say, everything is bad, there is no health, life is not going well, debts, loans, no home, no work, in general, I don’t want to live, and then I have to spend a lot of money on the help of a trainer-consultant. I would like some free, effective advice.

But, unfortunately, there is no such thing as free and effective advice. For everything in life you have to pay. And often not with money (a virtual and renewable resource), but with much more expensive resources - time, energy, health...

There is this thing that I called "the theory of last money" and which has numerous confirmations in world practice (for example, the biography of the former poor man Peter Daniels or Edison Miranda, a homeless man who became a famous boxer). Its essence is to put yourself in a hopeless situation when “it’s either hit or miss.”

The fact is that any person always has money, even if he thinks that he doesn’t have it (here, as a rule, we are dealing with a perverted form of lying to oneself). The question is priorities. If survival is a priority, then all the money is spent on it. And a person will do only one thing all his life - survive. If the priority is a leap forward and development, then all his actions will be subordinated to these goals. Therefore, when a person invests all his money in himself, then he has no other acceptable options except to win.

The problem, however, is that the vast majority of people by upbringing have an unconscious ban on winning (hence the life-survival "victim philosophy"). But this can also be treated. The main thing is to overcome your own fear. Fear of finally becoming yourself, strong and free!

What to do when it “seems” that your whole life is “collapsing”

Below I present three letters - one addressed to me (with the permission of the author and with minor changes) and two simply found on the Internet as living examples; you will definitely see analogies and even similar phrases, plus the identity of the problem. And when there is a problem, you need to SEEK ITS SOLUTION.

"What's happening, everything is collapsing

My whole life is crumbling before my eyes, many years of struggle for my child’s health, my husband lost his job, I had to move, I’m losing dear people... and it seems that all this seems to have been planned and is coming to fruition... everything is so difficult.. I feel broken. Through my life at least make a movie. Tell me what astrology thinks about this...and WHERE?? FIND these forces- about which you write... I will try... Very much...”

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Hello, I am 22 years old, I am married, I have a beautiful daughter. It all started from the moment I became pregnant. My husband and I had just gotten married. everything was fine, but one day came a crisis, My husband was fired from his job. I worked as long as I could, then I went on maternity leave. She gave birth to a child, and then constant moving began. there were 5 of them over the last year. My husband seemed to be working, but somehow everything didn’t work out and he decided to take up entrepreneurial activity. At first everything seemed to work out, but then everything got worse...then... Anka owes a large sum, now they are suing. Not long ago I found out that I was pregnant again. Of course, I understood that it was not on time, but I was still very happy. my husband was not so positive. then the bleeding started. I called an ambulance, the hospital said that the child had been dead for a long time... it was not just a blow! They did the cleaning... Now a month has passed, I seem to have calmed down. but with money everything is bad . and my husband decided to work part-time in a taxi today on the first day I lost all my documents and money…

I'm n I don’t know how to live further and what to do, this is the last straw, I d I can't even cry anymore, I sit and giggle stupidly. and the worst thing is that I’m afraid of the future, because this is not a complete list of what happened to me over the past two years...

Help me please! How to find strength in yourself survive all this? how to start over

Thank you in advance…..

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what to do if life collapses?!

I’m losing all interest in life and the fight for a brighter future, I’ve just come to terms with the fact that I’m always alone (for quite a long period of my life)... And in recent years, in general everything went bad, now I’m unemployed, I owe the bank a large amount, crashed my car today….

I'm just tired already I'm tired of life, I can't even cry, because I’m tired...tired of these problems....the only thing that I think keeps me in this world is that I love my parents.. But for some reason it seems to me that this will soon not be a hindrance for me, I can’t do this next...tell me what should I do?

EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN SANTA BARBARA

In all three of these messages we see that problems roll in like a snowball and at some point some unpleasant event occurs (note - non-fatal!) and the person “breaks down”, that is, he reaches the limit of patience and catharsis occurs. Or the peak of the development cycle of his crisis situation.

Firstly, a person is deep inside a situation that seems to him to be a dead end. Looking from the outside, it doesn't seem so to us. It’s not without reason that they say that you need to “rise above” in order to see the whole picture or from a wider perspective. After all, everything is not so bad.

For example, we often compare ourselves with others - especially when they have something better or have something that we don’t have, and this plunges us into negative feelings of self-pity, envy, sadness, etc.

In this situation of “total collapse”, as advice, you can also suggest comparing your misfortunes with the misfortunes of others in order to feel better.

For example, some women do not have husbands and have to take care of themselves and their children, earn money, solve problems, make decisions, etc.

Some people don’t have a car and have to travel by public transport. Some people don’t have the money to afford to go abroad or just to the sea, etc. Someone does not have health, body parts, vision and hearing, parents, children, housing, etc.

Look at Nick Vuychich - if you think that everything is “bad” for you or that you have been deprived of something. He has neither arms nor legs, but he was able to cope with despondency and despair and even became rich, married a young beauty who bore him a child. He is a living motivation “not to be a victim.”

Are you still feeling bad? And do you feel left out?

Sometimes it seems to us that our life is like “Santa Barbara”, with many difficult moments, the first heroine even wrote that a film could be made based on her life, but look around - look at the lives of the people around you, delve into their stories. Each is its own movie, its own unique script, its own series and its own setbacks and failures. Well, who among us hasn’t lost a job? Hands up. Who among us has not been abandoned by a loved one? Any hands up? Who hasn't experienced financial difficulties, major losses, disasters, injuries and accidents? I think that all readers of this article are already sitting with their hands raised. Write if this is not the case.

I myself thought for a long time that the sphere of my personal relationships was completely Santa Barbara and that there was no more unhappy girl in the world, and then I saw that with others it happens not so, much more dramatic and complex.

Conclusion: your life is the same as hundreds and thousands of others, in some ways better, in some ways worse, and YOU ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING TO BE THANKFUL FOR.

Advice: try to help yourself get out of the victim state in which you are now to the state of the creator of your life or someone who is able to get out of this dead end, by changing your attitude to what is happening and changing the perspective of attention from focusing on “everything is bad” to focusing on that - A what do you want instead and how to achieve it.

In no way do I want to encourage you to ignore the problem, I ask you reset its importance, refocus. And this is the first step towards solving it.

They say that God does not give trials beyond our strength - we are able to get out of difficult situations, the main thing is to concentrate and gather ourselves. There are many examples when people came out of the most unimaginable situations, help came at the very last moment and in the most miraculous way. But you need to ask about it - God, the Highest.

In moments of despair, go to Him and pray for help, give your situation to Him for consideration. Say what you want, thank him and promise to accept everything as His will, humbly. And no matter what happens next, just live it, accepting it. You cannot sew a severed leg back, so sometimes you need to learn to walk on a prosthesis and live in new conditions. Some even manage to become Olympic champions in this state. We always have a choice - to lie down and “die”, to give up and despair, to fight and win.

Sometimes it seems to us that life is over and there is no point in living further, hope is dying, but in reality it is not the end of life, it is the end of one of its chapters and then a new chapter opens. Let there be something different in it, but this is life, a different plot, a different script, and we have everything to write the best script in this chapter.

CLASSICS OF THE GENRE

Events that are generally considered the most negative are classics of the genre - divorce, loss of work and livelihood, loss of valuables, death of loved ones, health problems, injuries and accidents.

Any person experiences crisis, stress, depression and other negative feelings at this time, but you can react to them in different ways, for some it will be the “end of life”, and for others the “beginning of a new one”. From the success stories of famous, rich and successful people, we can learn that they also had to go through such “bifurcation points” (the moment of no return), that is, difficult moments when everything collapsed for them, losses occurred, and other crises, but precisely from which began the starting point of their future success.

One of the major information businessmen said that his beloved girlfriend left him, after which he finally got up from the couch and created his own business. Now he is rich and another girl has been found whom he happily married. Another famous blogger and trainer shared the story that a major car accident forced her to change her life dramatically, quit a prestigious job, leave a foreign country, think about the future, return to the country and create her own online training business. And there are millions of such stories. Because that's how the Universe works. We develop through crises.

How else can we be woken up or pulled out of our usual routine, how can we be encouraged to evolve and develop? The Universe knocks on windows and doors, and if we don’t hear, then on our heads... so that we finally do something in our lives; or simply changed something, perhaps long desired, but ignored; or simply followed their Path, from which they deviated, etc.

Metaphorically, a comparison can be made - when a mother calls her child, but he does not hear or ignores the call, then the parent screams louder or even comes up and uses brute force in order to attract attention, so Our Heavenly Father calls, shouts and sometimes does what -to draw our attention to ourselves.

And yes, crisis situations are a close path to God, because many of us remember His existence only in difficult moments. And this is a great chance to turn to Him.

Conclusion: Crisis situations draw your attention to Self, Truth and the Highest. Perhaps the time has come for changes in your life and you should not resist them. Perhaps it's time to take your Power. Perhaps this is a test of strength (more about this below in the Astrological interpretation of events).

Advice: try to change your attitude towards what is happening, reorient yourself from the end to a new beginning, be flexible and do not fall into despair - there is a way out of ANY SITUATION, even yours.

Well, judge for yourself - you lost your job, you will definitely find another one, you just need to make an effort and search hard. If you have suffered material damage, say “thank you, Lord, for taking me with money.” Your lover has left you, learn to live in love with yourself and life.

Does it feel like the world is collapsing? This is wrong! He's just rebuilding. And perhaps for you!

Each planet has its own cycle, for example, the cycle of the Moon, which reflects the structure of life processes - everything has birth, development, culmination and decline/death/end. At the moment when several negative stories coincide in life at once (there are positive ones too, but we rarely note this as something significant), the climax, the full moon of life, comes. After some time there will be a decline.

On full moons, you usually need to part with something that has become obsolete; these are times of heightened emotionality and difficulties in controlling it. A little later, you will look at what happened with much less tragic .

At these moments you need allow yourself to feel your emotions.

Saturn has long cycles, a full cycle lasting about 29-30 years and intermediate cycles of seven years. Saturn is considered a harsh planet, and I often associate it with Morozko from the fairy tale of the same name, when he tested the strength of the main characters by asking them “if they were warm” and then gave them gifts according to their test scores. Likewise, life (Saturn) tests how humble, strong, wise, and ready to take responsibility for one’s life and become its Authors.

Here is the woman who wrote the first letter, just going through Second Saturn Return(occurs around age 59-60). This is a time of another restructuring of life, challenges of fate, tests and great opportunities with the task of determining long-term goals for your further development. We perceive this time as a time of crises, we can be sad and despair, but Saturn is a strict and fair Teacher, he will bestow us in the future, but after a difficult period of change and restructuring.

Saturn asks us to engage in soul-searching and self-knowledge, to go through the process of re-inventorying ourselves and our ways of life. We may encounter something that does not work in our life, limitations and obstacles, see gaps, weak points. Saturn slows us down so that we can look with a firm and cold gaze at the reality we have built in our lives and find new ways and means to become a true author - an authority - in our lives. We have another chance to be the one who we really are.

In mythology, Saturn is associated with the harvest, with rewards for efforts made. If we are willing to wait, work, persevere. Saturn is a strict Teacher and he asks us to clear away our psychological and physical garbage and dig up the soil (our psyche) before we plant new seeds (new intentions/new life). During the Return we have the chance for real change and life-renewing rewards. This is truly a planet of opportunity.

During the Second Return, the wisdom of the Elder comes. Our personal and public safety is being reconsidered. This is a difficult time and harvest time, the results of work over the past years.

We ask a lot of questions at this time. We cannot repeat past mistakes. We are taking the first steps towards new beginnings.

Saturn often asks, “Whose movie am I in?” and challenges being a director and screenwriter. It would be too easy to read the lines of a well-known script. Instead, we must become Self-Authors and become the true Authors of our lives.

We need to rewrite the script of our lives. It's not always easy, our lives are full of people and situations that no longer reflect who we are. The human unconscious often creates situations that challenge us. It is as if it is hiring other people to play certain roles in our life story - this one will be the boss, this one will be the victim, and this one will be the unfaithful lover. Saturnian post-checks in life are associated with moments when these people play their roles and the time comes to adjust their life script. We must take back our projections and look at the drama of our lives as OUR responsibility. And don't blame anyone.

During the Second Return, Saturn calls for concrete action in the real world, but it is all very subtle. If we don't do what we need to do, we may never get a second chance. If you put off checking your health, it may be too late. If you don't admit to yourself that “my job is killing me, but I need to wait until I retire,” it may actually kill you.

As the body ages, fatigue and depression increase, the body is no longer an object of pride and then the Spirit has a chance to come forward. Some old habits may show their heads and need to be cut off. You may be asking yourself, “why do I have to deal with this issue again?” and the answer will be “because you’ve almost solved it.” Now you look at things more wisely and maturely. With the gift of wisdom, you complete unfinished tasks and situations.

At this time, you need to clean the very foundations - the basements of your existence and look at your de-idealizations, let the illusions go away. Now is the time to slow down and allow nice things to come into your life.

We can return to what gives the fruits of our experience - a certain project, something that we can do well and even better.

And here are the tools to help you pass the Saturnian checks:

1 Be discerning(discern (English) – to distinguish, recognize)

Since I am wiser today than I was a year ago and know much more, I can wisely use choices based on clarity of intentions. Dream of a future with a clearly visible path between the trees. “Know yourself” and “Nothing superfluous” - the inscriptions from the Delphic Temple are clearly for me. Now I need to step back from the excesses of youth and clearly understand what I can and cannot do.

2 Be cordial

Take courage and ask knowledgeable people for advice. And in myself: how much I project my insecurities and fears into the surrounding reality, making my life miserable, unable to take responsibility and cordially perceive those around me.

3 Go deeper

“All or nothing” is a rather superficial quick fix, but Saturn doesn’t like quick fixes. No quick decisions or things done in a hurry! It is better to withstand the tension of tearing contradictions and internal conflicts until a new form of the idea appears. And only then is it time to get out of your usual comfort zone and do it! “Dig deep - you will find precious water at the very bottom!”

4 Take action!

In the end, Saturn rewards those who do and depresses those who postpone from day to day.

It’s ironic - but while we are waiting (for the warmth and good weather of spring - by the sea of ​​​​good weather :)) Saturn is testing us for the strength of our faith - rebirth and rebirth. We are like seeds on a windowsill, waiting for seedlings and watering. And in due time we must act, dig deep, separate the weeds from the emerging flowers...

...everything comes in due time..

We went into great detail on the Saturn Return cycle (especially for my reader who asked the question), but there are also many other cycles - for example, the Uranus opposition and the Neptune square at the age of about 40-42 years old called the Midlife Crisis, the Jupiter Return - occurs every 12 years old and also marks the beginning and end of certain milestones in life, an upgrade in life style. Personal cycles can be learned through consultations with astrologers, and everyone has their own working astro influences in difficult moments of life.

Conclusion: The events taking place are influenced by planetary, cosmic and other cycles.

Advice: if you need support in times of crisis, contact professional therapists (psychologists, astrologers, etc.) and support groups, ask for help from friends and family. They will definitely help you regain your lost hope.

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Ecology of life. Psychology: My head became heavy, my thoughts hung in gray wool, a lump rolled up in my throat, tears froze in my eyes. There is no strength to speak or cry. I don’t have the strength to ask for help or call someone. This is the state - “totally bad.”

My head became heavy, my thoughts hung in gray wool, a lump rolled up in my throat, tears froze in my eyes. There is no strength to speak or cry. I don’t have the strength to ask for help or call someone.

This is the state - “totally bad.”

- What do you want now?
- I do not want anything. I want everyone to leave me alone. It would be better if I never existed at all. To avoid this starting point of the report...
– This is global. What do you want very little for yourself now?
- ..... so that there is no noise around, ... so that everything calms down, and I am left completely alone ...
- What can you do for yourself now?

Finding an answer to the question “What can I do for myself now?” launches a program to overcome depression, despair and exhaustion.

I am not anyone else. Mobilization of one's own forces, search for a resource.

I can - I definitely can. Finding a solution and selecting an action within your capabilities.

Do it – don’t just think about it, but do it. Movement towards specific actions and changes in the situation.

Now - at this moment, not sometime in the future, but already now. Making a decision and taking immediate action.

This action is usually very small, takes the person out from under the hood, and triggers the self-rescue mechanism.

What is the smallest thing I want for myself and what can I do for myself right now?
“I don’t want to see these walls, so that no one bothers me.”

I can leave here immediately by turning off my phone.
-I want it to be quiet and I was alone.

I can ask everyone to gather their remaining strength to get out of here and leave me alone for two hours.

As soon as an action occurs that responds to an urgent need, that’s it, the mechanism is launched.

At this exit stage, you should not try to analyze the situation. This is a pointless waste of resource. You now do not have the opportunity to objectively and adequately perceive what is coming.

While you are inside the problem, you will not be able to look at it from the outside.

Try to “turn off your head.” Throw out any thoughts that come, and try to remain in complete emptiness.

Mastering the technique of “thinking nothing,” the ability to stop the flow of your own thoughts, is not easy, but it is possible.

It will allow you to take a break from exhausting “crisis decisions” and searching for those to blame.

Be in this state at this stage for as long as you need to regain your strength and start breathing.

The first opportunity to analyze will come the next day. Even then, don't try to make long-term decisions.

You will be able to understand what really happened and how to do it differently next time no earlier than in a few days, and the more time passes, the more objective your view will be. “Big things are seen from a distance.”

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Therefore, you shouldn’t make furious decisions “under the hood”: “That’s it! I’m getting a divorce!” or write resignation letters. Perhaps it’s worth hanging up and you’ve grown out of this work a long time ago, but this can only be done with a “fresh head.” And it’s better to leave not “from”, but “to”.

When you jump with a parachute, the main thing is not to forget to pull the ring in time.
Remember, maybe someday this will save your life. published

Success is a journey from failure to failure. Probably every person at least once in his life asked what to do when everything is bad. I'm not doing well at work, I have problems with my studies, I have no personal life, my family doesn't understand me, my friends betray me...

Are there many reasons when a person can despair, give up and become depressed? If you find yourself in this situation, then you urgently need help. And first of all, you must accept it from yourself.

How to cope with a depressed state and regain the joy of life?

I hope that the following simple tips will help you overcome problems and change your life for the better!

When everything is bad: we act!

1. Don't hold back your emotions

What to do when you feel bad? When did you most recently experience deep emotional distress? Give free rein to your feelings. Everyone does it differently. Some people cry on the shoulder of a close friend, while others throw a huge party to distract themselves.
Do what you want (within the law, of course), and you will see that it will become easier.

2. Break down the problem into pieces

Try to think about it objectively and impartially. Identify the cause and think through possible ways to solve the problem, which can be done now. When everything is bad, you want to withdraw into yourself and grieve, but this is not a way out of the situation.

To remain in this state for quite a long time means to register two new tenants in your house: depression and hopelessness. Strong people act while weak people sit and feel sorry for themselves. Be strong!

3. Despite the fact that the current situation brings nothing but grief, as it seems at first glance, still think about what it has taught you.

It is problems that build character and make a person more experienced and wiser. Think about what exactly your problem taught you, what experience you learned from it.

4. In everything bad, if you try, you can see something good.

Analyze your problem and you will find positive aspects that will definitely please you! For example, you dated a young man for a long time, were incredibly happy, and then he suddenly and unexpectedly left you.

Yes, it is very painful, but along with the loss you acquired one important advantage - freedom. You are free in your actions, you no longer need to think about what he would say, how he would react, what he would do.

From now on, you are your own boss, you have more free time for yourself, and no one has canceled flirting.

And flirting, as you know, adorns any woman! That's it! And then, you see, a new love will appear and will be much better than the old one.

5. It is important to tell not only what to do when everything is bad, but also what not to do.

Don't become isolated. Don't isolate yourself, don't focus on the problem. At such moments you need to be able to distract yourself. After all, life is so interesting, and you sit and rack your brains over something extremely unpleasant.

Meet old friends, spend an evening with the whole family somewhere outdoors, go to a nightclub and have fun with a friend, play sports, start learning a foreign language or master a new program on the computer, find a new and interesting hobby, get yourself a dog and etc.

There are a lot of options! Do what you like and brings you joy. The world will sparkle with new colors, and you will discover such bright facets of yourself that you didn’t even know about!

6. Don't be afraid to ask for help. The support of loved ones, friends and loved ones is very important for every person.

After all, these people will always help you get out of a difficult situation, support you and will not leave you to the mercy of fate. If you are lonely, then look for friends.

And you will definitely find them. In the meantime, seek the help of a good psychologist. He will help you get back on your feet.

7. And finally, don’t be afraid of anything!

Perhaps a lot of effort is needed to solve your problem. Does this scare you or are you just lazy. Fight this and don’t be afraid to carry out your plans, even if it is very difficult, and then fortune will definitely smile on you!

It is useful to remember one important piece of wisdom. King Solomon did not live such a sweet life as many people think. And he had a ring that helped him survive all the hardships.

The secret of the ring is in the inscription on it. And it represents one simple phrase: “This too shall pass.” Remember this in moments of despair. Grief cannot last forever, and happiness will definitely smile on you, just help it a little!