Carelessness and sloppiness are important in diagnosis. Causes of human degradation in modern society Clinical course and prognosis

A sloppy wife needs a blind husband.

Proverb

If a man in your house throws dirty socks around, that's...

doesn't mean he's a slob, he's just marking his territory.

Observation

Sloppiness as a personality quality is a tendency to show extreme untidiness; inability to keep one’s body, clothing, home, or workplace clean.

Vovochka sits down at the table. His mother, looking at his hands, asks: “Vovochka, why are your hands so dirty?” Vovochka: - Most likely it’s because I just washed my face with them...

Sloppiness is the lack of need for cleanliness. A sloppy person is under the influence of the energy of ignorance. Good people are characterized by purity of consciousness, which cannot appear in a person if there is no purity of the body. It doesn’t happen like that - the body is dirty, but the mind is pure. People in passion are forced to take care of their appearance, body hygiene, cleanliness of their home and workplace, otherwise they will become social outcasts, receive negative disrespectful assessments from others, and lose significance and importance in the eyes of people. Pachkulya will not be able to move up the career ladder. Well-groomed men walk up it - in impeccable suits, impeccable shoes, ties, clean shirts. Brushed, shaved, in a word, they look expensive.

Patchkulya does not take care of her appearance; she looks wrinkled and unkempt. He doesn't care about the opinions of others. He is a bright representative of the army of ignorance. Alcoholics, drug addicts, and homeless people don’t care what they look like. What will an alcoholic buy in the morning – a bottle or toothpaste? What would a drug addict prefer - to run for the next dose or to take a steam bath in a Russian bathhouse? People are volunteers in an ignorant environment and lose shame and conscience. Alcoholics themselves say that the first thing they lose is shame. You become no longer ashamed of your fall in front of your wife, children, colleagues and strangers.

Sloppiness is the child of ignorance. Pachkulya, having become an adherent of an ignorant environment, first loses shame, and then, in advanced cases, conscience. Animals have no shame. Self-preservation instincts force them to monitor the hygiene of their bodies. They are close to nature and have not lost touch with it. Man, despite the fact that he considers himself the “crown” of creation, has lost touch with nature. He does not understand her signals and signs. The flesh is stupid. Having lost shame, Pachkula, unlike animals, does not see the need to take care of herself. He doesn’t understand why he should waste time on washing, bathing, washing and cleaning. And that will do.

There is a good old joke on the topic of slobs: “Parents look at their dirty, dirty child, and think: should they wash this one or make a new one?” N.N. Nosov in “Dunno on the Moon” created the image of Pachkuli, which will help us understand the essence of sloppiness: “Pachkuli Pestrenky usually walked in gray pants and the same gray jacket, and on his head he had a gray skullcap with patterns, which he called a skull cap. He believed that gray matter is the best matter in the world, since it gets dirty less. This, of course, is nonsense and untrue. Gray fabric gets dirty, like others, but for some reason the dirt on it is less noticeable. It is necessary to mention that Pachkula was a rather funny little guy. He had two rules: never wash your face and never be surprised by anything. It was much more difficult for him to observe the first rule than the second, because the short ones with whom he lived in the same house always forced him to wash his face before dinner. If he protested, he was simply not allowed to sit at the table. Thus, he still had to wash himself, but this did not matter much, since he had the tendency to quickly get dirty. Before he had time to wash himself, some dirty dots, spots and stripes would immediately appear on his face, his face would quickly lose its natural color and become somewhat quail-colored. For this they called him Pachkuley...

While the car was driving around the city, Knopochka started a conversation with Patchkulya: “You, Pestrenky, apparently haven’t washed your face today?” - I just washed my face! - Why is he so dirty? - So, I got dirty again. “You’ll have to wash your face again, because we can’t take something so dirty on the trip.” - How do you mean “we can’t”? We persuaded ourselves to go, but now suddenly “we can’t”! - Pestrenky was indignant. Meanwhile, Dunno left the city and, approaching the Cucumber River, turned onto the bridge. At the end of the bridge, Button said: Come on, stop the car. Now Motley will wash himself in the river. Dunno drove up to the shore and stopped the car. - I protest! - Motley lost his temper. “There is no such rule as to wash your face twice a day!”

Sloppiness is a signal of personality degradation. If a person was previously neat, but now walks around dirty and rumpled, you need to be wary. Maybe he is deeply depressed or has begun to deteriorate sharply under the influence of some external unpleasant circumstances. You can fall into the swamp of ignorance quickly, literally in one day. In the evening there was a successful businessman, he went to the casino and lost his entire business, his house, his wife and children. In the evening there was a respectable family man, but he got involved with a drunken company. As a result, in the morning I ended up in the hospital with beatings, lost important secret documents, but acquired AIDS. Often a person descends to the level of an animal in terms of lifestyle, but is inferior to him in the purity of his body. He was a prosperous man, but now he lives in a doghouse. Compassionate old women sometimes bring him food and moonshine. He smells like a skunk, but he himself looks like a devil.

“Bees don’t let a dirty person in,” says a Russian proverb. It is clear that society reacts negatively to the reluctance of its member to be like everyone else in the context of hygiene. The brilliant Russian writer Nikolai Vasilyevich Gogol was sloppy. He had an unattractive appearance. Gogol especially did not like his nose. “My God, what a long, sharp, birdlike nose he had! I couldn’t look at him directly, especially up close, thinking: he’ll take a bite and it’s out of the question,” a contemporary recalled about him. If you add to the “bird’s nose” long hair that has not been combed or washed for a long time, and a suit that is ugly in appearance and color, then the picture will turn out to be far from picturesque...

There were whole legends about Gogol's sloppiness, and it was precisely this that was the reason for all the sarcastic jokes about him. Gogol's biographers say that he rarely washed his face and hands in the morning, and always wore dirty underwear and soiled clothes. In his youth, while studying at the gymnasium, because of his slovenliness and scrofulous appearance (his ears were bleeding), many students were disdainful to give him a hand, refused to take his books - this was real hell for a normal person. “Gogol constantly looked askance at us, kept aloof, always looked with a frown...” From childhood, Gogol cultivated his loneliness, filling it with all sorts of oddities: in the choir he was out of tune most of all, he always walked along the streets on the opposite side, constantly colliding with passers-by, often not finished his sentences, combed his hair and cut his hair only on great holidays...

The great French writer Honore de Balzac was also known for his sloppiness. Contemporaries saw his sloppy clothes against the backdrop of a gloomy facial expression and a heavy, heavy figure as characteristic of his appearance. It was useless to reproach the writer for sloppiness. People came to the conclusion that if they ironed Balzac’s clothes, put them in perfect order, and dressed him to perfection, everything would be in vain: within an hour he would again be wrinkled, unbuttoned and sloppy.

The great Albert Einstein was distinguished by great sloppiness. He himself said: “Even in my youth, I discovered that my big toe sooner or later makes a hole in my sock. I haven't worn socks since then." Walking in boots on bare feet seemed much more pleasant to the scientist than wearing them at night. The genius greatly valued the comfort that he associated with the disorder and chaos of his home. Scattered things, books, papers did not interfere with his work at all. It seemed to Einstein that such things as ties, hats, and tuxedos were invented by fools to complicate their lives. He preferred old sweaters and open-necked shirts to elegant clothes. The genius did not like going to the hairdresser. His hair was always long and unkempt.

Socrates' wife, Xanthippe, was a sloppy bitch... Her favorite expression was: - If you are as smart as everyone says, then where is your money, Socrates. Friends, sympathizing with Socrates, asked him: “Why do you need her?” Such a woman? To which Socrates invariably answered: “You are afraid of your posthumous fate, but I am not afraid of anything.” The great gods gave me such a wife that while living on Earth I would ALREADY experience all the torments of hell. I am no longer afraid of death.

Peter Kovalev

As a rule, this deviation is observed in adulthood and is characterized by a desire to isolate from others.

The disease got its name from the ancient Greek philosopher Diogenes, who preached the principle of being content with little. According to the facts, the thinker lived in a barrel, ate scraps and was famous for his provocative actions. People suffering from this syndrome are so prone to sloppiness that their lifestyle brings a lot of discomfort to both family members and neighbors. According to the facts, the disorder is diagnosed in 3% of older people.

Features of the disease, its symptoms and causes

The disease was first considered as a separate psychopathological syndrome back in 1966. The name “Diogenes syndrome” was proposed by British scientists in 1975. Today, there is constant debate about the correctness of this particular name for the disease; many psychiatrists consider the most appropriate terms to use are “syllogomania” or “senile squalor syndrome.” The fact is that the fundamental symptom of this mental disorder is the pathological accumulation of unnecessary things.

The ancient Greek philosopher, after whom the disease got its name, did not suffer from collecting unusable objects. He lived in poverty and the only object of his possession was a cup, which, in the end, the thinker broke due to the philosophical ideas of asceticism.

In domestic psychiatry, another name for this psychopathology is widely used - “Plyushkin syndrome”. As you know, this character in Gogol’s great poem was famous for his stinginess and craving for the accumulation of unnecessary things, with which he completely filled his home.

Among the main symptoms of the disease are:

• pathological hoarding;
• aggressiveness and negativism towards people who criticize the patient;
• lack of self-criticism of one’s condition;
• failure to comply with hygiene rules, sloppiness;
• stinginess;
• isolation from the public;
• apathy, indifference;
• lack of shame;
• self-neglect.

Collecting unusable things sometimes clutters up the home of pathological hoarders so much that it literally turns into a garbage dump. Hoarders take away various unnecessary items that, in their opinion, may come in handy sooner or later. The hoarder’s place of residence is sometimes so cluttered with all sorts of rubbish that it even becomes difficult to move around the house. People suffering from this syndrome drag everything from the street: from old, broken furniture to empty cardboard boxes, some even managed to store rotten vegetables and fruits. All this rubbish gives off an unpleasant odor, and cockroaches and rats often infest the room. The greatest discomfort is experienced by family members and neighbors living next to the pathological storage device.

As a rule, any criticism addressed to the patient is not accepted, and any offered help is immediately rejected. Pathological "Diogenes" after several complaints about their lifestyle become suspicious, taciturn and secretive. Sometimes it is simply impossible to establish contact with them; relatives have to resort to forcibly hospitalizing the patient (in extremely serious conditions).

Patients do not realize the seriousness of their condition; to many complaints they respond that this is their lifestyle, a hobby. According to the hoarder, any thing can be used: “old boards can be used to build a shed,” and “you can store something in empty tea boxes.” Guided by this principle, a person turns his life into an obsessive search for unusable objects.

The appearance of such people is unkempt; they often do not care about how they look. Neglect of hygiene makes them look like homeless tramps. When it comes to nutrition, syllogomanias are also not picky; as a rule, they save on food. There are many cases where patients ate scraps from landfills simply because they did not want to spend extra money on food. Basic necessities and medicines, according to pathological hoarders, are also not very important. Many patients do not leave the house for months, considering communication with people useless and boring. Neglect of one's health and social isolation sometimes lead to dire consequences. According to the facts, some recluses die completely alone, surrounded by garbage barricades.

Another sign of the disorder is a lack of shame. Syllogomaniacs may publicly relieve themselves, change clothes, or even undress. They are driven by indifference to what others think; their actions follow the principle of “I want and I do.” Often patients end up in the police department because of their shameless behavior and violation of the norms of order.

An interesting fact is that often people suffering from syllogomania are the owners of large savings, although they live like beggars. There are many cases where former rich and influential individuals became vagabonds, coming home only to bring more rubbish. Thus, one American millionaire was so stingy that at the age of forty he simply decided to live in a landfill in order to spend less.

Among the causes of the disease are:

• organic lesions of the frontal lobes of the brain;
• mental disorders of old age;
• alcoholism;
• pathological tendency to collect.

According to psychophysiological studies, the disease can occur as a result of damage to the frontal lobes of the brain. The cause of such lesions may be injuries, brain diseases, or unsuccessful operations. These areas of the cortex are responsible for making decisions, and it is their damage that leads to the development of a pathological craving for accumulation.

Sometimes syllogomania is only part of a serious mental illness. The syndrome most often occurs in obsessive-compulsive disorder, senile dementia, and Pick's disease.

How to treat Diogenes syndrome

Therapy for the disease must be carried out without fail, since its symptoms can sometimes signal the development of more serious psychopathology.

So how to treat Diogenes syndrome? Sedatives, antidepressants, and antipsychotics are widely used as pharmacotherapy. Central to the diagnosis of the syndrome is a computed tomography scan of the brain to determine the extent of damage to areas of the brain. Psychotherapy, as a rule, is not used, since the basis of the disease lies in organic damage.

The main point in the treatment of the disease is family support and care. Often, Diogenes syndrome affects lonely people who are deprived of family love and mutual understanding.

Sloppiness as a symptom of illness

Neglect of hygiene, or sloppiness, is a common occurrence in everyday life. The reason for insufficient cleanliness in clothing and in everyday life may be a lack of time, the costs of education, financial difficulties or banal laziness. But all of these problems concern mentally healthy people. Total neglect of hygiene rules is often a symptom of mental illness when it comes to people suffering from nervous disorders.

Sloppiness is a symptom of a disease affecting the mental sphere

Any chronic or acute mental illness has its own symptoms, according to which it is diagnosed. Untidyness can be detected in the following nervous disorders:

If a person suddenly begins to neglect personal hygiene and show sloppiness in clothing, this should alert his loved ones. The sudden appearance of untidiness is a symptom of changes in the emotional-volitional sphere and can accompany many pathological processes in the mental sphere.

In senile dementia, a symptom such as untidiness is not always present. Patients can maintain independence, accuracy and pedantry for a long time. If progressive dementia is accompanied by exhaustion of the nervous system, depressive symptoms, and psychotic disorders, then sloppiness is a symptom of the disease, and it can be considered as the first manifestation of dementia. This development of the disease is typical mainly for dementia of the vascular and mixed types.

Sloppiness: causes

In dementia, the appearance of untidiness is associated with becoming like a small child who is unable to control himself, evaluate, or be responsible for his actions. He needs outside control and care. Dementia in older people is associated with age-related changes that occur gradually. In this case, care for the patient may be delayed. Sometimes they begin to take care of a sick person only after the disease has reached a severe stage, which makes performing hygiene procedures independently an impossible task.

Drug addiction and alcoholism inevitably lead to personality degradation and antisocial behavior. A person who has isolated himself from society does not feel the need to maintain his appearance in proper order. Untidy clothing and sloppy language are alarming symptoms that signal problems in a person’s mental state. If you witness such changes in the appearance of your relative or colleague, make every effort to eliminate them. It is important to remember that sloppiness is only a consequence of mental deformation. To eliminate the cause of the disease, you should immediately contact a psychiatrist.

Practice shows that a symptom such as sloppiness can have very different causes. An early reaction to such signals from the body gives a better chance of stopping the disease, preventing it from reaching a hopelessly severe stage. Specialists at the Mental Health Clinic will diagnose the disease and rationally select treatment based on the characteristics of age criteria.

Sloppiness is a sign

Many people know what is behind the term “sloppiness”. This is a disregard for order in the environment around a person and/or a violation of body hygiene standards. A person’s indifference to his own appearance causes, at a minimum, bewilderment, and sometimes just a feeling of disgust among those around him. A chaotic, cluttered environment that surrounds a person may suggest a catastrophic lack of time, carelessness with things, or a simple reluctance to spend time cleaning.

Typically, signs of sloppiness are attributed to cases of lack of upbringing in childhood, lack of discipline, laziness or lack of aesthetic taste. But sloppiness can also act as a symptom of mental disorder. And if in the case of sloppiness, which has become a character trait, a person can be influenced by persuasion, personal examples, an algorithm can be imposed on him, subject to which he will be able to achieve certain success in changing his cluttered world and appearance, then in the case of a mental disorder, cope with the phenomenon Sloppiness is very difficult. Mental illness and self-esteem are often incompatible things, so it is not possible to convince a person to look at himself from the outside and evaluate his appearance or the state of his home (workplace).

As a rule, such painful phenomena of sloppiness occur during puberty in adolescents, when some biochemical processes in the body change, which can affect the functioning of the brain. Most often, upon exiting puberty, the phenomena of sloppiness gradually disappear. But this does not always happen, since a careless attitude towards one’s body and a sloppy attitude towards things can be learned from childhood as a result of imitation by one or both parents, regardless of the educational process they carry out with the child.

A person is somewhat different from an animal in terms of instincts, and if in animals the need for cleanliness of their own body is associated with the instinct of self-preservation, then in a person the love for cleanliness is fixed in the form of a habit (developed independently or copied in childhood from the behavior of people around him, in particular, parental behavior).

A careless attitude towards oneself and the environment can be the result of depression, when a person, who is always neat and collected in everyday life, loving order, cleanliness and neatness, gradually begins to slide into the abyss of indifference and chaos, ceases to notice the inconveniences and clutter around him, begins to partially neglect or completely your own hygiene. Upon emerging from depression, such a person will pull himself together and begin to observe, as before, his own rules of hyena and order, but in the case of untreated depression and the impossibility of getting out of it on his own, sloppiness can take on catastrophic proportions.

Sloppiness can become a sign of personality degradation due to certain diseases: alcoholism, drug addiction.

Frequent cases of sloppiness are observed in older people during the period of degradation of brain cells. Such people require the attentive attention of their relatives and the help of a psychiatrist who will select the optimal treatment for each specific case. You won’t be able to cope on your own or with the help of relatives who have no experience in this matter.

There is a type of sloppiness associated with an irresistible desire to accumulate things, as a result of which the home turns into a cluttered warehouse or trash heap. Foreign scientists have come up with a term for this state of sloppiness: “Messy syndrome” (messy - translated from English, dirty, disorderly). This condition has other names in the medical literature: “Diogenes Syndrome”, “Plyushkin Syndrome”, “Syllogomania”. As it turns out, this condition can be caused not only by diseases that affect brain cells, but also by deep psychological trauma (loss of a loved one, destroyed personal life). In the case of “Messy Syndrome”, the help of a psychiatrist is required.

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Sloppiness is a disease

German scientists are sure: sloppiness is a mental illness. They even came up with a special term for it - “Messy syndrome” (from the English word messy - dirty, disorderly).

According to experts, in Germany alone 2 million people suffer from this disease. They include those who live in a dirty apartment, which is also littered with piles of unnecessary things. Doctor of Medicine Wedigo von Wedel believes that such a disorder is clearly underestimated, because pathological collecting, one of the main components of the syndrome, prevents people from leading a normal life. For those around them, the disease develops unnoticed: things from the trash begin to appear in the house, and all attempts to throw out trash end in hysterics from the owners of “wealth”. At the same time, neither age, nor social status, nor gender of modern Plushkins play a role. Doctors cite severe psychological trauma, such as the loss of a loved one, as a possible cause of Messi syndrome.

Alexander MAGALIF, senior researcher at the Moscow Research Institute of Psychiatry, leading specialist at the Clinic of Psychological Adaptation:

– A person living in a dirty and cluttered home is not necessarily a pathological collector, much less mentally ill. People are slobs from childhood and remain so throughout their lives. Sloppiness is a trait of their character and even a family “tradition”. The condition described by German scientists is indeed a symptom of a mental disorder, when a patient with an emotional and volitional defect does not wash for weeks, or even months, rummages through garbage cans, drags all sorts of rubbish into the house, etc. But this is not an independent disease, but one of the manifestations of a more complex mental pathology. This is often observed in old people with age-related decline in intelligence. They walk down the street with bundles full of “valuable” things. Such behavior can indeed occur after mental trauma, but it is a manifestation of a protracted reactive state and a change in lifestyle, including a system of values ​​and priorities.

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I am a slob: reasons and how to fix it?

Carelessness and sloppiness can be a characterological personality trait that is formed during the period of a person’s upbringing, and this quality can be modeled from adults, even despite all the efforts of the parents to accustom the child to order.

If one of the parents is careless or sloppy, and the other, on the contrary, is neat, then the probability of the child acquiring a character trait will be about 50% of the probability. Since raising a child does not take place on the basis of moral teachings, but by example. The child will imitate the parent who is more authoritative in the family.

Is sloppiness a disease?

Have you noticed that slobs are always late everywhere? They forget important assignments, never get enough sleep, and miss important meetings.

Chaos reigns not only in their apartments and on their desks. Chaos reigns in their heads.

Sloppiness can be a sign of depression, attention deficit disorder, and even some neuropsychiatric diseases.

If sloppiness is a sign of illness, then you should immediately consult a doctor.

If this is a sign of disorganization, you can self-medicate.

Causes

1. You simply weren’t taught to keep your house in order. This is not psychology, but a completely everyday skill that parents should have instilled in their children according to science. Most likely, in most of our families, cleaning was carried out using the “all-hands-on-deck” method, that is, “The guests are coming!”, “I’ll finally throw away this trash!” or “Aren’t you ashamed to be covered in dirt?!” This is a destructive approach to establishing order and only a few know about the existence of techniques for order and cleanliness. And even fewer are able to methodically pass this technique on to their descendants.

2. Emotional immaturity. This is closer to psychological problems. Many people know what is needed for full physical development. These are nutrition, sports, sun and other physical factors. What does it take for a child to develop emotionally? The question is more difficult! In the meantime, from early childhood, a child needs to be taught the idea that he is a full-fledged member of society, who is able to take care of himself and others. In practice, often everyday tasks, such as washing dishes, for example, are used for punishment purposes, which creates a negative attitude towards work. Or, on the contrary, the child is protected from any household responsibilities in favor of study or, even worse, entertainment: “He will still have time to work hard.” This is a sure way to raise an over-aged child who will take time off from work whenever possible.

3. Attention to one’s own person is the first full-fledged sign of psychological inferiority! Or another childish way of manipulation. “I can’t put on my socks!”, “I can’t heat up dinner!”, “I can’t find my gloves!” - “Oh, my good one - let me put it on, warm it up, and find it!” And in adulthood, this goes on a larger scale: money is lost, bills are not paid, soup turns sour on the stove. In general, in any way I need to show that I am helpless, and therefore I need a “nanny” who will clean, find, serve for me.

4. Protest is another “hello” from childhood. Destructive ways of teaching order, in which rigidity, inconsistency or aggression predominated, can result in teenage rebellion. Often this rebellion migrates into adulthood under the slogan: “I’m already an adult, I live as I want.” And “I want” in defiance of the parent, that is, in disorder. Thus, a person of this type continues to prove with his chaos that he has the right to disobey his parents. Of course, there is also emotional immaturity at play here.

5. A family stereotype can also prevent a person from sorting out his home. If people have lived in chaos for generations, while maintaining a favorable emotional climate, a person needs the same chaos to feel at home.

6. Lack of possessions (toys, clothes, books) in childhood contributes to hoarding in adulthood. A person experiences a subconscious fear of returning again to a state of lack of everything, so he does not part with what he has accumulated, although it is unnecessary.

7. Attachment to the past also prevents a person from parting with the rubble in the house. Every thing in their life is like a good friend who is painful to part with. Afraid of losing touch with the past, such people often fear the future.

8. Dislike for housing blocks all attempts to start a clean life. Often the state of a rented apartment or life with the spouse’s parents is very depressing. No wonder, rarely does anyone want to invest in someone else’s property or adapt to old people’s customs.

9. If you have not been taught to respect yourself, this is another path not only to trash, but also to sloppiness in appearance. The main argument of a person who does not respect himself is: “Yes, it will suit me!” If you at least sometimes use this phrase, most likely you should learn a little more about self-esteem, then order will come to your house faster.

10. Emotional experiences do not allow a person to live in cleanliness and comfort. “I throw things around as if under hypnosis,” admits 30-year-old Anya. “I absolutely don’t understand how this comes out!” In a state of emotional crisis, a person’s priorities shift. Negative thoughts and feelings should have their place - just like any item in the house - used and then put away out of sight. If you forgot to clean or didn’t want to, then both negative experiences and disorder in the house begin to fill our lives. Thus, when we stop “putting things in order in our heads,” we stop putting things in order in our house.

11. Depression is already a disease characterized by a decrease in mental and physical activity. With depression, a person loses motivation, which leads to cluttering the house, and cluttering the house, in turn, makes the house even more depressed.

12. Mental problems are a frequent companion to an unkempt home. For example, the so-called “Plyushkin syndrome” is considered incurable. A person carries mainly all sorts of rubbish from the trash heap, until his home is completely filled. This is the most extreme and perhaps hopeless case.

How to fix?

1. Systematization. If you don’t know what to do with the amount of things, urgently come up with a system for storing them. Learn to put things in a certain order on shelves, boxes, caskets, etc. The principle is simple: like with like. Handles with handles, socks with socks.

2. There is no need to clear away the rubble. If everything is running, then you can spend the whole weekend on such work. Start small. Today you are laying out clothes, tomorrow you are going through papers, the day after tomorrow you are arranging books, etc. Write yourself a plan and act strictly according to the schedule. The main thing is to continue to follow certain principles and put things together correctly.

3. Convenient arrangement of furniture. Perhaps you are putting clothes in a pile because the closet is inconvenient.

Or it’s impossible to reach the nightstand. Arrange the furniture so that it is always convenient for you to use it.

4. Get rid of unnecessary things. Give old clothes, books and magazines to those in need.

Take old cards, souvenirs and soft toys out without regret.

Be sure to throw away cosmetics that have expired.

For women: if the husband is a slob

If a lady can be somehow shamed, like: “You’re a woman!”, then it’s much more difficult to reach a man. Let's start with the fact that most men believe that a woman MUST clean up their dirty socks, close up their pasta, wash dishes, and take out beer bottles. It is very difficult to fight this. If he was taught this behavior from childhood, he will live with such confidence all his life. You can, of course, put smelly socks on his pillow at night, thrown right next to your robe. But I'm afraid this won't lead to anything good. Such a man is sure that he is a king and God, and a woman should serve him and also thank him for it.

1. First, of course, talk from the very beginning of your life together. It’s clear that it’s impossible to clearly distribute responsibilities like: you walk the dogs, and I wash the dishes. What should he do if he has a crunch at work and he won’t come until midnight? Wait until the animals at home shit themselves?

To talk means not to shout, not to start getting into a pose and setting conditions. Just make it clear that one (alone - if a woman is sloppy) simply cannot cope. But you don’t intend to live in dirt.

Does not help? Let's move on to the fighting.

2. I left a dirty mug of compote on the table - pour some nice tea or kefir there, depending on what he asks for. It's the same with plates.

3. Scattered things throughout the room - put them in a neat pile in the middle of the room. Let him admire it in the morning!

4. Before washing, if you can’t find pairs of socks, buy multi-colored ones, for example, beige and gray pairs. “Doesn’t add up” again? So give him different ones, one of this color, the other of that color. “Sorry, honey, I don’t know which chandelier and behind which closet the couple is on!”

For winter you can buy red and green. Before going on a visit, give a red + green pair.

5. If you didn’t even bother to ask to iron your shirt in the evening, take the flag in your hands and walk away crumpled. I'm not going to be late for work because of your carelessness.

6. There's a wrench perched on the kitchen counter - put your thong on the dashboard of your car.

Serious note: don't take all the advice literally; it may not apply to everyone. Using such methods, you can correct a slob who sincerely strives for correction, but simply, due to her upbringing, does not notice her “shortcomings.”

And the main thing to remember is that any disorder in everyday life leads to confusion in the head. In addition, searching for the necessary things among the rubble takes a lot of time.

Therefore, being a slob in our time is an unaffordable luxury!

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What should you do if, upon coming home from work, you want to immediately strangle your own husband and... children? Without changing clothes, without washing your hands after the subway,?..

You need to take a deep breath. Exhale... Step to the side, out of harm's way. And - a sober analysis. Why, exactly, such disfavor?

For what?!! Because the socks from the day before yesterday are under the sofa, yesterday’s half-eaten sandwich is there, there are unwashed dishes in the sink, dirty shirts are scattered throughout the apartment, old magazines, toys and... Stop!

There is no need for tears, much less blood. Better listen to the scientists...

“Sloppiness is a disease,” say scientists

In the full sense of this sad word. And tears (quarrels, screams and even) will not help matters. Sloppy people, it turns out, need to be treated... Otherwise, such a small flaw will develop into a disorder that is dangerous for the human psyche.

Symptoms of the disease. Nothing special: an untidy apartment, unwashed dishes, a mess in the closets, a layer of dust on the shelves that covered last year’s half-eaten sandwiches, broken toys, unfinished notes...

Danger of complications. In the absence of treatment, it is very likely. Manifestation: the house turns into a dump, and the culprits of this become the direct descendants of Plyushkin (read the classics).

Causes of occurrence. But this is already serious. Scientists say that the basis of the pathological reluctance to part with everything old and no longer needed is a deeply hidden secret.

For example, the death of a beloved grandmother. A funeral (a natural event, in general) can hurt a child so deeply that the fear of taking out of the house everything that was once loved and useful will settle in his subconscious...

How does the disease develop? Completely unnoticeable. At first, the child throws tantrums if the mother decides to throw away his old toys. A little later - there is no strength to part with the torn beads and the old blouse... Old magazines are stored, broken chairs are taken out to the balcony...

Particularly severe cases. Well, this is a specific clinic... For example: I don’t want to wash the dishes. And not because I’m lazy. But because there are traces of what gave pleasure a few minutes ago.

Wildness? Yes, a pathology, obvious even to non-specialists. But the precursor to this particular illness was “ordinary” sloppiness, a reluctance to part with old things that retain traces of the past.

Need treatment? Yes. At the psychotherapist. Rummaging through the subconscious, looking for deeply hidden trauma. By the way, there may not be any injury as such. Sometimes the cause of pathological sloppiness and love for old things is a difficult childhood from a financial point of view. Or a hereditary character trait: my grandmother was very stingy, and now she doesn’t have the strength to take out the trash...

Will everyone be cured? Doctor of Medicine Vedigo von Wedel, who heads a Munich non-profit organization that supports people in difficult life situations, claims that it is impossible to completely get rid of this syndrome. But you can help a person normalize their life.

So don’t rush to strangle your loved ones who won’t agree to clean their room... What if they are sick? Do not believe? Read Herrad Schenk's book Life as Accumulation. It is based on the real fates of people who turned their homes into warehouses for unnecessary things. Despite the fact that everyone’s life stories are different, the beginning and first steps on this sad path are approximately the same: psychological trauma - ordinary sloppiness - pathology.

Yes, this is a subtle thing - human psychology... And you can take only the easiest things at once. In all other cases, you need patience, patience and more patience. Or maybe help from a doctor...

Sloppiness is a sign of what?

What is behind the term " sloppiness"Many people know. This is a disregard for order in the environment around a person and/or a violation of body hygiene standards. A person’s indifference to his own appearance causes, at a minimum, bewilderment, and sometimes just a feeling of disgust among those around him. A chaotic, cluttered environment that surrounds a person may suggest a catastrophic lack of time, carelessness with things, or a simple reluctance to spend time cleaning.

Usually signs of sloppiness refers to cases of lack of upbringing in childhood, lack of discipline, laziness or lack of aesthetic taste. But sloppiness can also act as a symptom of mental disorder. And if in the case of sloppiness, which has become a character trait, a person can be influenced by persuasion, personal examples, an algorithm can be imposed on him, subject to which he will be able to achieve certain success in changing his cluttered world and appearance, then in the case of a mental disorder, cope with the phenomenon Sloppiness is very difficult. Mental illness and self-esteem are often incompatible things, so it is not possible to convince a person to look at himself from the outside and evaluate his appearance or the state of his home (workplace).

Usually so painful phenomena of sloppiness occur during puberty in adolescents, when some biochemical processes in the body change, which can affect the functioning of the brain. Most often, upon exiting puberty, the phenomena of sloppiness gradually disappear. But this does not always happen, since a careless attitude towards one’s body and a sloppy attitude towards things can be learned from childhood as a result of imitation by one or both parents, regardless of the educational process they carry out with the child.

A person is somewhat different from an animal in terms of instincts, and if in animals the need for cleanliness of their own body is associated with the instinct of self-preservation, then in a person the love for cleanliness is fixed in the form of a habit (developed independently or copied in childhood from the behavior of people around him, in particular, parental behavior).

A careless attitude towards oneself and the environment can be the result of depression, when a person, who is always neat and collected in everyday life, loving order, cleanliness and neatness, gradually begins to slide into the abyss of indifference and chaos, ceases to notice the inconveniences and clutter around him, begins to partially neglect or completely your own hygiene. Upon recovery from depression, such a person will pull himself together and begin to observe, as before, his own rules of hygiene and order, but in the case of untreated depression and the impossibility of getting out of it on his own, sloppiness can take on catastrophic proportions.

Sloppiness can become a sign of personality degradation due to certain diseases: alcoholism, drug addiction.

Frequent cases of sloppiness are observed in older people during the period of degradation of brain cells. Such people require the attentive attention of their relatives and the help of a psychiatrist who will select the optimal treatment for each specific case. You won’t be able to cope on your own or with the help of relatives who have no experience in this matter.

There is a type of sloppiness associated with an irresistible desire to accumulate things, as a result of which the home turns into a cluttered warehouse or trash heap. Foreign scientists have come up with a term for this state of sloppiness: “Messy syndrome” (messy - translated from English, dirty, disorderly). This condition has other names in the medical literature: “Diogenes Syndrome”, “Plyushkin Syndrome”, “Syllogomania”. As it turns out, this condition can be caused not only by diseases that affect brain cells, but also by deep psychological trauma (loss of a loved one, destroyed personal life). In the case of “Messy Syndrome”, the help of a psychiatrist is required.