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The long-awaited miracle has finally appeared in the house! With the arrival of a new resident, everything in the family changes; parents have thousands of questions about caring for and raising their child. Problem co-sleeping with a child is quite relevant. Most babies prefer to sleep with their parents, expressing dissatisfaction when they are put in a cradle. They act up, cry and protest in other ways (depending on their age). But there are also those who resign themselves to the will of their parents and get used to sleeping separately. Some babies sleep in their crib within a week, others take months to get used to, and sometimes they can’t get used to the cradle at all. Should you put your baby to sleep in a separate crib or should you give in and take him into your own bed?
A little about myself:
For as long as I can remember, I have never slept as soundly as in my parents’ bed. As an adult and visiting my mother, I no, no, I’ll sleep on her pillow. And so much strength comes! Nothing surprising. The strongest bond between people is the bond between parents and children. I notice that my sons often snore sweetly on my bed.
Before the birth of my first child, many, including pediatricians, told me that children should be taught to sleep only in their own crib. This should foster independence and responsibility. I agreed with them while it was a theory. After giving birth, the son established his own rules in the house. Listening to him scream for hours in the cradle and look at me with blue reproach was beyond my strength. No more than half an hour later the son was asleep deep sleep on my bed.
My husband, after night shift, was forced to carry my son back to the cradle. Over time, I noticed that every night morning sleep did not exist in the family. The child woke up and woke everyone up. Over time, youth won, and the husband had no choice but to move to another room for several years. Calm reigned in the family.
I noticed that sleeping next to my son is somehow healing. It's arrived
Yes, yes, through tenderness and love for the child, I realized how strong my attachment to my husband, the father of my son, how much stronger our feelings became.
It came by chance, suddenly. Looking at my men, small and large, who eventually peacefully shared a place next to me, I realized that happiness had settled. There is an age in a child when it is vital for him to be closer to his parents. You can't deprive him of this to please scientific theories and pedagogical inventions. Everything must obey the laws of nature. This is my firm belief as a mother of four sons.
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Several years passed, and my son no longer ran to our bed in the morning. He became an “adult”, independent. And there is no need to prevent this either. The child has moved to a new stage in his development as an individual.
Like a carbon copy, this story was repeated with my other sons.
In my experience, I have not noticed such harm. In theory, there probably is:
I’ll say one thing, every family should have its own recipes. proper education children, based on traditions, pedagogical experience and reasonable, attentive attitude towards each other.
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Exist different opinions regarding co-sleeping with your baby. Does it influence the development of a child’s independence? At what age should a child be weaned from co-sleeping? How to do it? Violetta Kulishova talked with two specialists: pediatrician Natalya Anatolyevna Zelenikina and psychologist, consultant on breastfeeding Lapshina Anna. Which opinion to listen to is up to you!
The existence of mental connections between people is an indisputable fact that almost everyone knows about. Stories about a person’s ability to feel that someone close to them is in trouble will not be news to anyone, and everyone knows about the special telepathic connection between the closest relatives. However, few people know that one of the most simple ways telepathic communication with another person - sharing a dream with him.
Co-sleeping can be defined as a combination of a lucid dream with a mental connection with another sleeping person; Some researchers of paired and group dreams consider them to be a type of out-of-body travel. Which of these two theories is closer to the truth is a question to which, unfortunately, the answer has not yet been found. However, the practice of dreaming together after appropriate training is available to every person who has already learned to be aware of and manage dreams.
It is best to practice dreaming together with your friends or relatives - in order for two people to meet in one dream, there must be some kind of connection between them in reality. Since pair sleep is highest level lucid dreams, it is necessary that at least one of those who decided to meet in a dream was perfectly able to control their dreams, and the second had at least minimal skills in dream awareness.
The most simple technique, with the help of which two people can dream together is as follows:
1. Dreamers must first agree on a group dream and on the appointed night try to fall asleep at approximately the same time, and both people must tune in to a lucid dream.
2. A person who is better able to manage his dreams should take on the role of a “leader” - find his dream partner himself in a dream and begin communicating with him. To achieve this goal, you need to enter a state of lucid sleep and call the person with whom you decided to have a common dream by name, while feeling the desire and intention to see it.
3. As a rule, after the “leader” felt the presence of his partner in a dream and saw him, the dream environment will turn out to be alien; will arise Great chance losing your sleeping partner. Therefore, the “leader” must approach the follower and “wake up” him - take him by the hand and, thus, introduce him into a joint dream.
4. When two people are in a dream together, they can begin to communicate. People who practice group dreaming claim that most conversations take place in the form of an exchange of thoughts and emotions; questions and answers are not spoken out loud. The trust dreamers have in each other is prerequisite staying and communicating in a common dream: if one of the dream partners does not have enough trust, a feeling of fear will push him out of sleep and force him to wake up.
Unlike lucid dreams, the setting and scenery of a shared dream, as a rule, do not have of great importance; they are constantly changing, since they depend on the will of not one, but two people. An interesting nuance of joint dreams is the fact that in meetings in a dream there is only the present time (or there is no concept of time at all) - quite often it happens that one of the partners sees a joint dream during the time allotted for practice common dream night, and the second person - the next night or even a few days later.
People who successfully practice group dreams can, over time, reach significant heights in this skill - they are able to come into contact with almost any of their acquaintances in a dream, and in a few moments of communication in a dream, transmit or receive a large amount of information. Shared dreams are a little-studied ability of the human subconscious, but such dreams open up a new level in interpersonal communication for dreamers.
Almost all modern pediatricians welcome co-sleeping with a child. The child needs constant contact with his mother. While still weak and vulnerable, the baby should feel protected.
He needs parental attention for proper neuropsychic development. However, moms have varying opinions about sleeping with their newborn.
Most likely, the correct position is somewhere in the middle: sleeping with a child is useful, but only up to a certain age. Of course, sleeping together should not go against the interests of other household members.
1 Convenience of feeding. The baby will have to be put to the breast quite often at night. If the baby is in bed with his mother, night feedings will not bother anyone. In addition, co-sleeping significantly improves lactation. With a well-established feeding regimen at the correct interval (from 3 to 8 a.m.), the production of the hormone prolactin, which stimulates lactation, will be improved. Prolactin is also a natural contraceptive.
2 Healthy sleep moms. Many women say that they can feed their baby at night, literally half asleep. Indeed, when mom goes to the crib, the sleep phase is interrupted. The body needs to go through a new cycle to achieve deep sleep.
And harmonious sleep is what mothers of infants need most.
Without enough sleep, a woman not only experiences discomfort all day, but also risks dropping her baby. By the way, it can also occur due to poor quality sleep.
3 The child is not hypothermic. The baby also needs the natural warmth of the mother’s body from a physical point of view. When sleeping together, there is no need to wrap the child in a blanket, under which the baby may become too hot.
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4 A breathing rhythm is formed. The baby listens to the rhythmic inhalations and exhalations of the mother and repeats them on a subconscious level. This interesting feature- nothing more than the first breathing exercise child.
5 The baby cries less. A child may become restless in a dream due to various reasons: suffers from colic, the baby is cold or wet. An excellent way to “relieve stress” in such cases is mother’s breasts. Being next to the baby, a woman can react faster than the rest of the family members have time to wake up from the baby’s crying.
1 There is a possibility of harm to the baby.
Infants are so fragile and delicate that it seems that any awkward movement can hurt them.
But nature itself comes to protect the baby. Mother's dream if she is not under the influence sleeping pills, incredibly sensitive. The woman wakes up from any movement of the baby. Therefore, it is simply impossible to run over a child in a dream.
2 Non-sterile environment. Well-washed bedding contains absolutely no germs that can harm the baby. The child does not need sterile conditions, because his immunity must develop and learn to fight any irritants. Of course, if one of the parents is sick viral diseases, you should not sleep next to your child.
3 Difficulties in intimate life parents. Many families, not unreasonably, believe that personal life and co-sleeping with a child are incompatible things. But the absence of lovemaking in the marital bed while the baby is in it can hardly be called a compelling argument against.
Many children tend to strive for independence. Therefore, there are common cases when the baby goes to his crib on his own. What to do if this doesn't happen?
The physiological need to sleep together with the mother disappears in a child by about 1 year. But if you wish, you can transfer your baby to his own crib from 2-3 months.
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The main rule in weaning from co-sleeping is the sequence of actions. Weaning from the parent's bed should not be stressful for the baby.
Co-sleeping with a child is a real miracle. The main thing is to learn to feel the rhythm of sleep and control it. And sleeping with your baby will be the most pleasant experience for you.
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Psychologists and neonatologists never tire of repeating that close contact between mother and baby from the first days triggers natural mechanisms of mutual attachment, and also favors the neuropsychic development of the child. However, many parents consciously resist this trend by placing babies in separate cribs and even rooms. Their argument is convincing: why teach a child something that will have to be weaned from?
How to understand the problem of co-sleeping? Most likely, the truth lies in the middle: co-sleeping with a child can bring both enormous benefits and harm. The main thing is to try equally respect the interests of all family members. Although it must be said that the very first weeks of a baby’s life are special. His needs during this period cannot be neglected, even in the name of peace between household members.
Well, for those young parents who have not yet decided on their position regarding, we suggest considering all the pros and cons depending on the age of the child.
The baby really needs to be with his mother all the time. He needs to feel the warmth of her body, hear the familiar beat of her heart, feel the familiar smell and, of course, the taste of milk.
Pros:
co-sleeping satisfies the newborn’s needs for tactile contact, giving him a feeling of comfort and security;
the mother does not get up at night to see the baby, feeds him while half asleep, which means she has the opportunity to get some sleep;
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the sleep cycles of mother and child are synchronized;
the mother can be sure that the child is not cold;
Oddly enough, babies who sleep next to their mothers suffer from colic much less often, and generally cry less.
Minuses:
hyper-responsible mothers may not get enough sleep for fear of harming the baby;
there may be a danger of overheating for the baby;
the risk of suffocation during sleep, although minimal, is still present (ask the ambulance staff);
dad, unlike mom, may not control himself in his sleep
two adults can be carriers asymptomatic infections(including those transmitted by airborne droplets) and infect the baby through such close contact.
We can highlight the next stage. The fact is that approximately two months after birth, lactation, as a rule, stabilizes, and the baby can already boast of some successes. He is active, more awake, with feeling good sleeps more soundly. The baby’s innate reflexes gradually fade away, and conditioned ones are developed. This means that it is quite possible for him to sleep in his own crib, if desired.
Pros:
the baby develops a balanced psyche;
Mom continues to get enough sleep;
Teething periods are more relaxed.
Minuses:
a mother who is breastfeeding may perceive any anxiety of the baby as a request to eat and overfeeds him, which is fraught with digestive disorders;
A dad who tries to control himself in his sleep does not get enough sleep.
Children happily continue to sleep in their parents' beds, but this is no longer necessary.
Pros:
maintaining lactation for a longer period;
the child is able to fall asleep anywhere, as long as his mother is nearby (very convenient when traveling);
A close relationship is established between mother and child.
Minuses:
at this age, children who sleep with their parents are more likely to suffer from sleep disorders than those who are taught to sleep separately;
the child develops the habit of falling asleep only in the parent’s bed;
the baby does not develop the ability to fall asleep on his own;
the mother stops getting enough sleep because the child sleeps restlessly;
Dad might get pretty tired of all this.
Co-sleeping can confidently be called optional.
This is clearly not good for marital relationships.